Do you remember where you were on 9/11 when the twin towers in New York came crashing down? IF you are an American, the answer is probably yes. Why? Because that was an extremely emotional event that changed America forever. The same thing is true about your divorce. For your children, it is an extremely emotional event that will change their lives forever. They will always remember where you told them, what you told them, and how you told them that you and your spouse were ending your marriage. That’s why knowing how to tell your children you are divorcing is so very important. Yet, it is something that so many divorcing spouses do wrong.
Children tend to internalize their parents’ decision to divorce. They often believe that your divorce is their fault. Unless you explain to them that your divorce was your decision, and that nothing they did or did not do caused this to happen, they may still feel responsible for the divorce. You need to reassure them (probably multiple times) that this was an adult decision that had nothing to do with them. And you need to make sure they know that, even though you are divorcing, you and your spouse both still love them, and that you will be their parents forever.
Knowing how to tell your children you are divorcing is one of the most important parts of your divorce. Of course, no matter what you tell them, or how you tell them, your divorce will still affect them. But, if your goal is to minimize the damage that your divorce inflicts on your children, then it is worth a few minutes to learn how to tell your children you are divorcing in the best way possible.