By the time you’re done with your divorce, you usually want to be done with your ex, too. Unfortunately, if you have kids together, talking to your ex is not optional. You’re going to have to talk to your ex about schedules, money, parenting issues, and more. What’s more, you’re going to have to … Read more about 10 Tips for How to Talk to Your Ex About the Kids (Without Losing it!)
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Good divorce advice is like a shelter on high ground in a tsunami. You need it when you need it. When you don’t need it, you’re rarely paying attention to it … which is why you may have missed some of the divorce advice in my best divorce blog posts this past year. But, not to worry. Here is a … Read more about Top 10 Best Divorce Blog Posts of 2016
I want a divorce but my husband doesn’t. I have been unhappy for years. I’ve tried to talk to him. No response. I tried to get him to go to marriage counseling. He said okay, but never went. I told him I was going to a divorce lawyer. He was upset at first, but now acts like nothing has changed. I … Read more about I Want a Divorce But My Husband Doesn’t: Am I Stuck?
Have you ever stopped to wonder why we use the same word – “custody” – to describe the right to care for our children and the imprisonment of criminals? It seems a little strange once you actually start to think about it. Maybe that is why the Illinois legislature just eliminated “custody” in all … Read more about Is Custody Dead? Understanding the New Illinois Divorce Law
Telling your spouse you want a divorce is hard. Telling your kids you are getting a divorce is a hundred times harder. As an adult, you know what divorce is going to do to your kids’ lives. You know it is going to change everything. You know it is going to hurt them. You want to protect them from … Read more about How NOT to Tell Your Kids You are Getting a Divorce
You can’t help it. It’s not that you are wishing evil upon your spouse while you are going through a divorce (ok, maybe you are!), but, you can’t help thinking, every now and then: what would happen if my spouse just died? Normally, of course, those passing thoughts just, well, pass. Somehow you and … Read more about Child Support After Death: 5 Tips for Providing for the Kids If Your Ex Dies
Do you remember where you were on 9/11 when the twin towers in New York came crashing down? IF you are an American, the answer is probably yes. Why? Because that was an extremely emotional event that changed America forever. The same thing is true about your divorce. For your children, it is an … Read more about How to Tell Your Children You Are Divorcing
Most divorcing couples embroiled in a custody battle think that the way they can win custody is by proving that their spouse is a terrible parent. They think that if they can persuade their kids to want to live with them, the judge will award them custody. They think that if they can show that their … Read more about How to Lose Your Custody Battle
They are caught in the perfect storm. At the same time that the baby boomers are experiencing the highest divorce rate in the country, their children – the 20 and 30 year olds with no job who have been knick-named “the boomerang generation” – are returning home to live with “mom and dad” in record … Read more about What Happens to the Boomerang Generation When Their Parents Divorce?
When I was in law school, the professors taught us that: "for every wrong there is a remedy." Unfortunately, like so many other things we've all learned in school, that's just not true. There are some problems the law can't solve. Actually, there are problems the law was never designed to solve: … Read more about Collateral Damage: Adult Children of Divorce