I became a divorce lawyer by accident.
After having worked for a big law firm, and then for the government, I decided to open my own law practice. To get my business off the ground, I told everyone I knew that I would take any kind of case they had … except divorce!
As fate would have it, divorce cases are exactly what kept coming to me. People were in trouble. Their marriages were ending and they wanted to get through their divorce without destroying their lives. But, they didn’t know how.
So, I started doing divorce.
When I did, what I saw shocked me. I saw a divorce system that was expensive, inefficient and counter-productive – a system that hurt, rather than helped, families.
As a relative outsider to the system, I could see it didn’t make sense. But, as one person, I wasn’t able to change it.
So, instead, I decided to try to help the divorcing people in the system get smarter. I helped them learn to use the system, rather than let the system use them.
I tried to help people get divorced differently.
That’s what I’ve been doing ever since.
What I Believe
I believe that life is about choices.
The choices you make during your divorce will affect the rest of your life, and your kids’ lives. To make the best choices, you first have to understand your options.
Most people don’t know their divorce options. They don’t know how the divorce system really works. They don’t know what to expect. So they turn to lawyers to help them through what will likely be one of the most difficult and expensive times in their lives.
But not all lawyers are created equal.
A few lawyers will actually take the time to explain the divorce system to you. Some will tell you the truth even if it means they make less money on you.
Most lawyers will protect your “rights.” But they won’t tell you what that protection will cost you in time, money, relationships, and heartache.
What People Say
“Karen has been an incredible resource for me in the first few years of a high conflict co-parenting situation. She has helped me grow in setting boundaries and diffusing unnecessary conflict, while also helping me to understand how to own the power I have and how to make decisions that are right for me and my family. She is always encouraging and insightful, while also being just enough of an accountability for me to keep me moving forward, even through difficult steps. I know that I am far more confident and hopeful for my future having worked with Karen!”
“THANK YOU for sharing so much information! My divorce was final a couple of weeks ago. Yes, divorce is hard, costs more, and takes longer than you expect.
Reading your blog helped me realize that I was on the right course and my attorney was perfect for me and my situation. Thank you for being an amazing resource!”
What I Do
I help people understand their divorce options so that they can make choices that will not only help them survive their divorce, but will put them in a position to thrive afterwards.
While I still take Collaborative Divorce cases as a lawyer, I spend most of my time as a divorce adviser and divorce coach, educating and empowering people to get through their divorce with less stress, less pain, and less expense. In those roles, I help people understand, prepare for, and navigate through their divorce amicably and intelligently.
I am only licensed to give you legal advice if you live in Illinois.
If you live anywhere other than Illinois, I can not give you legal advice. But, as a divorce adviser and coach, I can still help you analyze the non-legal aspects of your divorce and make a plan that will help you manage your divorce as efficiently and effectively as possible. (By the way, contrary to what most lawyers will tell you, probably 80%+ of divorce is non-legal!)
If you would like to learn how you can work through your divorce with dignity and respect, contact me.
If you are looking for a gladiator divorce lawyer to bring your spouse to his or her knees, I’m sorry. I can’t help you.
That’s not what I do.
If you are interested in working with me, please let me know.
P.S. Just in case you were wondering about the traditional stuff, here it is:
I graduated with honors from the University of Notre Dame Law School, then started my career at a large Chicago law firm. From there I became the Chief of the Civil Actions Bureau at the Cook County State’s Attorney’s Office. After that, I opened my own law practice. I currently practice divorce law in Chicago and its suburbs.
Over the years, I have been an adjunct law professor at the John Marshall Law School and an arbitrator for the American Arbitration Association. In addition, I am also a Divorce Mediator and a Collaborative Divorce professional.
I am a member of the American Bar Association, The Collaborative Law Institute of Illinois, The International Association of Collaborative Professionals, The Illinois State Bar Association. and the Association of Family and Conciliatory Courts.
I write and speak about divorce a lot.
You can find my articles on The Huffington Post, The Good Men Project, Divorced Moms, Guyvorce, Your Tango, Divorce Force, Our Family Wizard, Mammamia, and here on my website.
The second edition of my book, When Happily Ever After Ends: How to Survive Your Divorce Emotionally, Financially and Legally is available on Amazon.