You know you “should” feel it. Everyone from scientists, to psychologists, to the most popular self-help gurus, touts the benefits of practicing gratitude. Yet, when you’re in the middle of (or trying to recover from!) a bad divorce, you’re not usually sitting around counting your blessings! Sure, … Read more about How to Be Grateful Even When You’re Divorcing!
Karen’s Divorce Blog: Practical Information to Get You Through Your Divorce
Divorce Announcements: How to Tell People You’re Getting a Divorce
You’re staring at the blank computer screen, unsure of what you should do. Is sending an email too cold? Maybe. But the thought of telling everyone you know you’re getting a divorce, one person at a time, makes you want to vomit. Isn’t there an easy way how to tell people you’re getting a divorce … Read more about Divorce Announcements: How to Tell People You’re Getting a Divorce
Divorce Stressing You Out? 13 Practical Tips for How to Deal with Stress
According to the Holmes Rahe Stress Inventory, divorce is the second most stressful life event that can happen to you. Of course, if you’re going through a divorce, you don’t need Drs. Holmes or Rahe to tell you how stressed out you feel. The truth is, you’re much more interested in how to deal with … Read more about Divorce Stressing You Out? 13 Practical Tips for How to Deal with Stress
How Much Does a Divorce Cost? … It Depends!
Ask any lawyer, “How much does a divorce cost?” and the answer you will inevitably hear is: “It depends!” It depends on how long your divorce takes. It depends on which divorce process you use. Most of all, it depends on how much you and your spouse fight. The truth is, a LOT of things … Read more about How Much Does a Divorce Cost? … It Depends!
64 Simple Ways to Save Money After Divorce
Let’s face it: After you’ve been through a divorce, money is tight! Not only do you have to live on less income, but, if you're like most people, your expenses probably went up too! On top of that, you probably have lawyers' bills, refinancing costs, and other divorce expenses to pay. Now more than … Read more about 64 Simple Ways to Save Money After Divorce
How to Tell Your Kids About Divorce: 7 Tips You Need to Know
,Do you remember where you were on 9/11? If you’re an American who is old enough to remember 2001, the answer is: Yes! Why? Because watching rogue airplanes crash through the Twin Towers was an emotional event that changed America forever. To your children, your divorce is an emotional event that … Read more about How to Tell Your Kids About Divorce: 7 Tips You Need to Know
Divorce Advice for Men: 32 Survival Tips You’re Going to Need
Men may never ask for directions, but when it comes to divorce, just like women, they need all the help they can get. That’s why this blogpost is dedicated to providing divorce advice for men. It’s not that men need any more or less divorce advice than women. It’s just that, sometimes, the advice … Read more about Divorce Advice for Men: 32 Survival Tips You’re Going to Need
Divorce Advice for Women: What Every Woman Needs to Know
Is divorce advice for women different than divorce advice for men? While you might think that the best divorce advice would be the same for everyone, no matter their gender or circumstances, that’s not entirely true. Sure, a lot of divorce advice applies to everyone across the board: gather … Read more about Divorce Advice for Women: What Every Woman Needs to Know
What to Do If You Suspect Your Spouse is Having an Emotional Affair
It usually starts out innocently enough. Your spouse has to get an important project done and needs help from a co-worker. It’s only natural that they would talk about their personal lives when they are spending so much time together. Or maybe your spouse is scrolling through social media one day … Read more about What to Do If You Suspect Your Spouse is Having an Emotional Affair
The Ultimate List of Divorce Support Groups and Why You Need One!
You probably never expected that someday you would be scouring the internet looking for divorce support groups. Not only did you believe that your marriage was going to last forever, but joining a divorce support group was just not something you ever thought would be on your radar screen. But, … Read more about The Ultimate List of Divorce Support Groups and Why You Need One!
Adult Children of Divorce: 10 Surprising Facts Parents Might Not Know
It’s no secret these days that baby boomers have the highest divorce rate of any age group. Yet, few people realize that, because so many of the over 50 crowd are getting divorced now, adult children of divorce have become their own special breed of divorce casualties. Fifty years ago, only 2.8% … Read more about Adult Children of Divorce: 10 Surprising Facts Parents Might Not Know
Coping With Divorce: Are Your Emotional Triggers Sabotaging You?
Coping with divorce – and doing it at least reasonably well – takes the patience of a saint and the inner strength of an advanced Zen master. (Neither of whom, coincidentally, usually get married!) Yet, of all the skills you need to successfully navigate through divorce, none is more critical than … Read more about Coping With Divorce: Are Your Emotional Triggers Sabotaging You?
6 Tips for Rewriting Your Divorce Story
What’s your divorce story? You know – the story in your head about what happened in your divorce. Yes, I know. None of us think we have “stories” about ourselves. We have “facts,” and “the truth.” But calling what you tell yourself a “story” doesn’t mean that it is made up, or that it is a … Read more about 6 Tips for Rewriting Your Divorce Story
Getting Back Together With Your Ex: Does Reconciling Ever Work?
The split was hard. More than hard. It was brutal. You cried more tears than you thought you had. You went through the searing pain of moving out and (supposedly) moving on. Your divorce is in process. But when you exchanged the kids the other day, you thought you saw something in your spouse’s … Read more about Getting Back Together With Your Ex: Does Reconciling Ever Work?
Divorce Facts: What Do Divorce Statistics Say About You?
Divorce statistics are fascinating. You can find data that will supposedly tell you how likely you are to get divorced based on where you live, what you do, and what kind of wedding you had. You can also find data that will allegedly predict what will happen to your health, wealth and relationships … Read more about Divorce Facts: What Do Divorce Statistics Say About You?
Alimony, Infidelity and Divorce: What’s the Price of Adultery Today?
Everything has a price – especially in affairs of the heart. Sometimes you pay in dollars. Sometimes you pay in emotional turmoil. Often you pay in both. For better or for worse, alimony, infidelity and divorce are often hopelessly intertwined. When they happen to be wrapped around your life, you … Read more about Alimony, Infidelity and Divorce: What’s the Price of Adultery Today?
Dressing for Success: What to Wear to Court
Going to court is stressful. You want to make a good impression. You want the judge to listen to you. (Okay, let’s be honest. You want to win.) Knowing what to wear to court, and dressing appropriately, is an important first step both in getting your voice heard, and persuading the judge to rule in … Read more about Dressing for Success: What to Wear to Court
Answers to Your Biggest Questions About Collaborative Law and Divorce
If you want to divorce your spouse without ending up as mortal enemies, what do you do? Having an amicable divorce sounds appealing. But you’re not exactly sure you and your spouse can pull that off without help. You’ve heard that Collaborative Law might be a good option. But you don’t have the … Read more about Answers to Your Biggest Questions About Collaborative Law and Divorce
Preparing for Mediation in 5 Simple Steps: Your Keys to Mediation Success
Preparing for mediation is like preparing for trial. You either know what you’re doing and you do it right, or you risk losing everything. Of course, going through mediation is not nearly as dramatic as going to trial. In mediation you don’t have pin-stripe suited lawyers making impassioned … Read more about Preparing for Mediation in 5 Simple Steps: Your Keys to Mediation Success
Why Getting Divorced Does Not Mean You Are a Failure
No one says it – at least not to your face. But you feel it. You see the judgment in people’s eyes when you tell them you are getting a divorce. You hear the criticism in their voice when they ask whether you are sure that you are doing the right thing. No one has to say anything. You know what they … Read more about Why Getting Divorced Does Not Mean You Are a Failure
How Do You Heal a Broken Heart and Let Go?
Few things in life are more painful than dealing with the loss of a love. Whether that loss came through death, divorce, or “just” a breakup, the searing pain of a broken heart can take down even the strongest person. Heartbreak is the ultimate equalizer. When you’re the one who’s crumpled on … Read more about How Do You Heal a Broken Heart and Let Go?
Everything You Need to Know To Choose the Right Divorce Process For You
Ask anyone how the divorce process works, and the answer you’ll get is not likely to be positive. Our divorce system is expensive, outdated, and seriously overburdened. Even still, it happens to be the only system we have. So, whether you’re okay with our current divorce system or think we … Read more about Everything You Need to Know To Choose the Right Divorce Process For You
Child Support Modification: Your Questions Answered
Life changes. Sometimes it changes a lot. If your life has changed since you got divorced, you may be wondering whether you can change your child support order to keep up with the times. While getting a child support modification isn’t necessarily difficult, it isn’t necessarily easy either. It also … Read more about Child Support Modification: Your Questions Answered
My Ex Is Not Making Child Support Payments Now I’m Running Short!
When your ex stops making child support payments your initial reaction is to want to take him/her to court. You’re stung by how horribly unfair it is that your ex is “getting away with” not doing what s/he is supposed to do. You’re also furious that now YOU have to struggle to make ends meet because … Read more about My Ex Is Not Making Child Support Payments Now I’m Running Short!