WHEN YOU MAKE BETTER DECISIONS, YOU GET A BETTER OUTCOME.
You Are Going to Have to Make More Important, Life-Changing Decisions While You're Going Through a Divorce, Then You Will at Any Other Time in Your Life.
Getting divorced is one of the most difficult, stressful, and life-altering events you will ever have to deal with. It's also chock full of decisions.
You have to decide:
- Where you're going to live;
- What's going to happen to your kids; and
- How you're going to survive when you've divided everything up and there's either less money coming in or more money going out every month;
You're also going to have to decide:
- What divorce process you're going to use (litigation, mediation, Collaborative Divorce);
- Which divorce lawyer to hire: and
- What you want to end up with financially once your divorce is over.
The decisions you make while you're going through a divorce will affect your family, your finances, and your lifestyle, for years.
Making those decisions alone, when you're an emotional wreck, can cost you dearly later on.
Letting other people (your lawyer, your judge, your spouse) make those decisions FOR you, usually ends up being even worse.
It also robs you of control and leaves you at the mercy of a system that fundamentally doesn't care about you.
Working with an expert divorce coach will enable you to regain control of your divorce and put yourself back into the driver's seat of your life. An expert divorce coach will give you concrete strategies and tools that can help you make better divorce decisions.
When you make better decisions, your divorce goes more smoothly.
When your divorce has less conflict you get a better outcome. ( ... it also hurts a lot less!)
When you get a better outcome, you position yourself to start your new life from a place of clarity and strength, rather than frustration and loss.
How can you even think about any of that when you're just starting your divorce, or you're overwhelmed with problems and emotions that just seem like they're TOO MUCH?!!!
You can't.
That's why you need me.
A Divorce Professional
WHO TREATS YOU LIKE A HUMAN BEING
A Divorce Professional With Empathy and Respect
After getting walloped with the news of my husband's infidelity and desire to file for divorce, I was put in touch with Karen through another acquaintance in the legal field. Karen laid out all the facts I needed to know as I began the process of getting divorced. She was candid yet empathetic; while she told me the hard truths, I knew she was in my corner and would help me however she could. ... I'm extremely grateful that I was put in touch with Karen and would recommend her wholeheartedly to anyone in a similar situation.
Client
Get Strategy AND Support
I’m a 57 year old married man and I started with Karen viewing some of her You Tube videos coaching, counseling and providing practical divorce guidance online. She struck me as very genuine and someone that truly wants to help you get through likely one of the most difficult times of your life. Being a divorce attorney she certainly understands well the legal aspects but what I believe sets her apart is helping you through the much tougher emotional aspects of the process and how the two interact. I decided to sign up for 3 of her divorce coaching sessions and it’s the best money I’ve ever spent. She wasn’t scripted and answered all the questions I had but also provided guidance on key decisions you need to start making."
Client
Working with Karen was the Best Money I Ever Spent
Before I met Karen, I had no clue of how divorce works. I read things online, listened to podcasts, Youtube videos, but it was so overwhelming! Her Divorce Road Map helped me a lot on how the process works. She has years of experience and when I was emotional, she helped me think about the big picture and think clearly. Not only is Karen a great listener ... who understands my situation, she’s also coached me on how to have a strategy to achieve my goals, focusing on what’s most important to me in the divorce.
Client
SO WHAT IS ...
A DIVORCE COACH?
A DIVORCE COACH IS YOUR PERSONAL, PROFESSIONAL GUIDE THROUGH THE MURKY WORLD OF DIVORCE.
Divorce doesn’t work the way most people think it does. It’s full of uncertainty. It also requires you to navigate a legal system that was never designed to solve family problems.
Getting through that system on a good day can be challenging.
Doing it when you’re an emotional wreck and can’t think straight can be disastrous.
As your divorce coach, I will guide you through your decision-making and divorce process, act as your sounding board, and be a reality check as you travel through your divorce.
I will help you prepare for what’s coming BEFORE it happens so that you can operate with CONFIDENCE instead of constantly being in REACTION MODE.
I will also act as your accountability partner to help you do the hard things that divorce will require you to do, but to do them with integrity and kindness.
WHY DO YOU
NEED A DIVORCE COACH?
Most people believe that the only divorce professional they need is a divorce lawyer.
What most people don't realize is that "the law" is only a small fraction of what going through a divorce is all about. Most of divorce deals with your money, your kids, your house, your finances, your lifestyle, your emotions and more.
"The law" has very little to do with any of that.
Divorce lawyers also don't work the way most people think that they do.
They're incredibly busy, they're often in court, and they have to deal with emergencies all the time. That means they may not have time to return your phone calls, answer your emails, or explain the way the court system works the way that you wish they would.
But when you're left in an information vacuum and your spouse is filling your head full of all the horrible things that are going to happen to you during this divorce, you freak out. (... AND you get stressed out!)
Here's the challenge. Divorce is driven by your emotions.
If you don't manage your emotions, and you don't learn how to deal with your spouse's emotions, your divorce will be a train wreck ... whether you have the best divorce lawyer on the planet or not.
The bottom line is that divorce lawyers are specialists in one thing - the law. They're not specialists in your finances, your kids, your home, your social circle, or your future.
That's why you need more than just a divorce lawyer if you want to get through your divorce in the most efficient and cost-effective way possible.
A good divorce coach can help you navigate through your divorce more amicably and affordably by helping you:
COMMUNICATE
more effectively with your spouse, your kids, AND your divorce lawyer.
SAVE TIME & MONEY
in attorney and other divorce professional fees.
PREPARE IN ADVANCE
for mediation, negotiation, custody evaluations and hearings so that you can be pro-active instead of reactive.
STAY FOCUSED
on what matters most so that you have the best chance of getting the outcome you desire in your divorce.
CREATE A STRATEGY AND A PLAN
that will help you identify where you want to be at the end of your divorce, and then actually get there.
A Divorce Coach is Different
FROM A THERAPIST OR A DIVORCE LAWYER
Each divorce professional plays a very different role in your divorce.
A THERAPIST
Focuses on your past so that you can figure out how you got to where you are now.
Helps you understand and deal with your emotions.
Helps you work through grief and loss
Teaches you how to build behaviors that will serve you better in your divorce and your life
Helps you manage mental health issues, especially those like anxiety and depression which can arise during divorce.
A DIVORCE COACH
Educates you about divorce and the divorce process
Focuses on your future and helps you create goals
Helps you create a workable plan for getting through your divorce and achieving your goals
Acts as your accountability partner to keep you focused and moving forward
Helps you get organized and gather necessary information
Assists you in identifying and managing the other divorce professionals you may need to get through your divorce more effectively and efficiently
Provides you with tools and techniques that will help you communicate with your spouse to so you can co-parent more peacefully
Helps you create a workable parenting plan
Provides you with strategies for dealing with difficult spouse/ex.
A DIVORCE LAWYER
Educates you about the law in your specific state
Advises you about how a judge might apply the law in your cases
Helps you get complete financial information from your spouse
Represents you in court; Fights to ensure you get a good financial settlement
Negotiates the main terms of your divorce with your spouse's lawyer
Drafts all of your legal documents.
It Takes a Village to Get Through Divorce
Alone, We Are Our Own Worst Enemy
When you're alone and going through a difficult emotional situation, your brain will do everything in its power to derail you.
It's not because there's anything wrong with your brain.
IT'S BECAUSE YOU'RE HUMAN.
Your brain is hardwired to look for danger so that you stay safe. It's designed to keep you focused on everything that could go WRONG in any given situation.
The problem is that, in divorce, there are SO MANY things that can go wrong, that it's easy to get overwhelmed. You head floods with a parade of terrifying possibilities. And you spend your days spinning in your head and wondering ...
"What if...?"
"What if s/he takes my kids away?"
"What if this divorce devastates me financially and I don't have enough money to live on after it's over?"
"What if my spouse is a jerk and runs up ginormous legal bills we can't afford?"
"What if ... what if... what if?"
Alone, it's hard to combat the endless litany of "What ifs?"
Alone, it's harder to manage distractions. When you're alone you may find that you can't stay focused on the few important activities that will make a difference in your divorce.
Alone, you have to make decisions in a vacuum.
With a good divorce coach by your side, you won't be alone any more.
My Clients Get Results
HERE'S WHAT THEY SAY
It's comforting to have someone knowledgeable in your corner
Karen, I want to thank you for guiding me through the most horrific period of my life. I appreciate your advice, your professionalism, and your compassion. Thank you for taking the time to listen to me and treating me like a person, not just a client.
Client
Karen Kept Me Moving Forward
Karen has been an incredible resource for me in the first few years of a high conflict co-parenting situation. She has helped me grow in setting boundaries and diffusing unnecessary conflict, while also helping me to understand how to own the power I have and how to make decisions that are right for me and my family. She is always encouraging and insightful, while also being just enough of an accountability for me to keep me moving forward, even through difficult steps. I know that I am far more confident and hopeful for my future having worked with Karen!
Client
Having a coach was a TREMENDOUS help!
"Thank you for being my divorce coach! You helped me tremendously on this journey and I am grateful that I have found you and thank you for all your coaching and help! Please keep doing what you do as you are helping people who truly need you at their worst moment in life.
Client
How We Can Work Together
If you are interested in working with me as your coach, just fill out and submit the form below. When I get your request. I'll send you an email as soon as I can. (I try to respond within 2 business days, so please be patient! I'm only one person with a very small team.)
I'll email you back. We'll set up a quick talk. We'll make sure we're a good fit. Then we start.
That's really all there is to it.
- If you're tired of being stuck bouncing back and forth in your head trying to figure out whether you should stay or you should go;
- If you're facing divorced and feeling totally overwhelmed with everything you've got to do;
- If you're worried that you won't make the best decisions and will get taken advantage of in your divorce...
DO YOURSELF A FAVOR.
Reach out. Submit the form below.
I can help.
PS. If contacting me and getting the help you need sounds too simple (or too scary!) to you, that probably means it's EXACTLY what you need to do.
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