What is a Divorce Coach?
A divorce coach is a specially trained divorce professional who takes you from where you are now, and helps you get to where you want to be once your divorce is over. She helps you understand the divorce system, understand your divorce options, and navigate through your divorce with more confidence and clarity.
A divorce coach is not a therapist. A therapist works with you to look at your past and figure out how you got to be where you’re at now. A divorce coach focuses on your future, and helps you devise a workable plan for getting through your divorce so you can create the future you want.
A divorce coach is also not a lawyer. I happen to be both. But I can’t be both your coach and your lawyer. If I’m working with you as a divorce coach, I can not give you legal advice. I also can’t represent you in court, or draft your legal documents.
What Does a Divorce Coach Do?
A divorce coach can help you figure out whether you want to get a divorce and how to deal with the divorce you’re facing (whether you wanted it or not.)
Here are some of the issues a divorce coach can help you navigate:
- How to decide whether you should stay or go.
- How to prepare for divorce (Yes. I know how that sounds. Trust me. Not preparing for divorce is worse!)
- Understanding the divorce system.
- Deciding which divorce process (divorce mediation, divorce litigation, collaborative divorce) will be best for you and your family.
- How to choose and deal with a divorce lawyer.
- How to put together a divorce team that supports you, but doesn’t break the bank.
- What you can do to save time and money in your divorce.
- How to make goals in your divorce and a workable plan to achieve those goals.
- What you need to do to prepare for mediation.
- What you need to do to prepare for court.
- How to keep your divorce moving forward in the most effective way possible.
… and so much more!
Is Divorce Coaching Right for You?
Divorce is a legal process. But it is also so much more.
Divorce is emotional.
Going through a divorce is like riding a roller coaster without the safety bar on it. One minute you’re up. The next minute you’re down. In between you often feel like your stomach is coming up through your mouth, and you’re not sure whether you should let go of the sides of the car, or just puke all over yourself.
As your divorce coach, I can help you keep your eye on where you want to be, so that you don’t let your emotions sabotage your common sense.
Divorce is financial.
Dividing up your money is scary, especially if you’re not a wizard at personal finance. Figuring out how you are going to survive after your divorce can be even worse.
Your lawyer will hopefully help you get the best financial settlement possible. But if you don’t know how to evaluate your settlement options, you won’t be equipped to make the best financial decisions. What’s more, your lawyer is going to need you to provide him/her with all of your relevant financial documents first.
Aa a divorce coach, I can help you manage that process.
Divorce is also relational.
Divorce affects your kids. As your divorce coach, I can help you really put your kids first.
I can help you understand the parenting issues you will likely face in your divorce. I can help you put together a Parenting Plan and a Parenting Schedule that will best suit your kids’ needs. I can also help you learn to communicate with your soon-to-be-ex as a co-parent. (Like it or not, parents are parents forever. Figuring out a way to communicate with your ex is going to be key!)
If you have deeper parenting issues, and need guidance from a child psychologist or therapist, again, I can point you in the right direction so that you can get the help you need.
Divorce is a process.
If you don’t understand how that process works, you can make mistakes that will follow you for a lifetime. What’s really scary is, you may not even realize you’ve made a mistake until it’s too late.
As your divorce coach, I can help alert you to the dangers in the divorce road. I can help you understand how the divorce system really works. I will help you figure out the choices in your divorce journey, so that you can make the best choices possible for yourself and your family.
How We Can Work Together
It is really that simple.
Karen has been an incredible resource for me in the first few years of a high conflict co-parenting situation. She has helped me grow in setting boundaries and diffusing unnecessary conflict, while also helping me to understand how to own the power I have and how to make decisions that are right for me and my family. She is always encouraging and insightful, while also being just enough of an accountability for me to keep me moving forward, even through difficult steps. I know that I am far more confident and hopeful for my future having worked with Karen!