A Good Divorce Coach Can Change Your Divorce
... and Your Life!
Getting divorced is one of the most difficult, stressful, and life-changing events you will ever have to deal with. The decisions you make while you’re going through a divorce can affect your family and your finances for years. Making those decisions alone, when you’re an emotional wreck, can cost you dearly later on. Working with a divorce coach will give you concrete strategies and tools that can help you make better divorce decisions.
When you make better decisions, you get a better outcome.
When you get a better outcome, you’re in a better position to start your new life from a place of clarity and strength, rather than frustration and bitterness.
A Divorce Professional Who Treats You Like a Human Being
"Karen, I want to thank you for guiding me through the most horrific period of my life. I appreciate your advice, your professionalism, and your compassion. Thank you for taking the time to listen to me and treating me like a person, not just a client."
So What is a Divorce Coach?
A divorce coach is a specially trained divorce professional who helps you manage your divorce with a clearer head and a more confident heart.
A divorce coach acts as your guide, your sounding board, and your reality-check as you travel through your divorce. A good coach will also help warn you of the pitfalls you’re approaching in your divorce BEFORE you make mistakes that are difficult to recover from.
Divorce coaching can help you get crystal clear about what you want and what you need so that you have a “True North” to guide you as you make decisions in your divorce.
Why Do You Need a Divorce Coach?
Most people believe that the only divorce professional they need is a divorce lawyer.
What most people don’t realize is that “the law” is only a small fraction of what going through a divorce is all about.
Divorce is driven by your emotions. If you don’t manage your emotions, and you don’t learn how to deal with your spouse’s emotions, your divorce will be a train wreck … whether you have the best divorce lawyer on the planet or not.
Divorce lawyers are specialists in one thing – the law. They’re not specialists in your finances, your kids, your home, your social circle, or your future.
That’s why you need more than just a divorce lawyer if you want to get through your divorce in the most efficient and cost-effective way possible.
A divorce coach can help you navigate through your divorce more amicably and affordably by helping you:
- Communicate more effectively with your divorce lawyer;
- Communicate more effectively with your spouse;
- Gather and compile your financial information so that you don’t miss anything AND so that you save time and money in attorney’s fees;
- Get you to the RIGHT professionals if you need extra help understanding your finances, managing your emotions, or dealing with your kids;
- Create a workable parenting schedule and parenting plan;
- Prepare IN ADVANCE for the issues you will face in your divorce;
- Keep focused on what matters most so that you have the best chance of getting the outcome you desire in your divorce;
- Make decisions with confidence so that you’re not constantly second-guessing yourself and changing your mind because you’re not sure what to do.
Working with Karen was the Best Money I Ever Spent
"I’m a 57 year old married man and I started with Karen viewing some of her You Tube videos coaching, counseling and providing practical divorce guidance online. She struck me as very genuine and someone that truly wants to help you get through likely one of the most difficult times of your life. Being a divorce attorney she certainly understands well the legal aspects but what I believe sets her apart is helping you through the much tougher emotional aspects of the process and how the two interact. I decided to sign up for 3 of her divorce coaching sessions and it’s the best money I’ve ever spent. She wasn’t scripted and answered all the questions I had but also provided guidance on key decisions you need to start making."
A Divorce Coach is DIFFERENT From a Therapist or a Divorce Lawyer
While many divorce coaches (like me) are also divorce lawyers or therapists, the role that each divorce professional plays in your divorce is very different! What’s more, no one person can fill more than one role in your divorce.
That means that no one can be BOTH your divorce lawyer and your coach. No one can be BOTH your therapist and your coach.All three professions perform very different functions in your divorce.
A Divorce Coach
A Divorce Lawyer
It's comforting to have someone knowledgeable in your corner
"After getting walloped with the news of my husband's infidelity and desire to file for divorce, I was put in touch with Karen through another acquaintance in the legal field. Karen laid out all the facts I needed to know as I began the process of getting divorced. She was candid yet empathetic; while she told me the hard truths, I knew she was in my corner and would help me however she could. Through an extremely painful time in my life, her guidance and extensive knowledge made things easier to navigate and tolerate. I'm extremely grateful that I was put in touch with Karen and would recommend her wholeheartedly to anyone in a similar situation."
Alone, we are our own worst enemy.
When you’re alone and going through a difficult emotional situation, your brain will do everything in its power to derail you.
It’s not because there’s anything wrong with your brain.
It’s because you’re human.
Your brain is hardwired to look for danger so that you stay safe. It’s designed to keep you focused on everything that could go WRONG in any given situation.
The problem is that, in divorce, there are SO MANY things that can go wrong, that it’s easy to get overwhelmed. You head floods with a parade of terrifying possibilities. And you spend your days spinning in your head and wondering, “What if …?”
- “What if s/he takes my kids away?”
- “What if this divorce devastates me financially and I don’t have enough money to live on after it’s over?
- “What if my spouse is a jerk and runs up ginormous legal bills we can’t afford?”
- “What if … what if … what if?”
Alone, it’s hard to combat the endless litany of “What ifs?”
Alone, it’s harder to manage distractions. When you’re alone you may find that you can’t stay focused on the few important activities that will really make a difference in your divorce.
Alone, you have to make decisions in a vacuum.
Having a “personal GPS” (a divorce coach) can make all the difference in getting you to where you want to be once your divorce is finally over. (Think about what it would be like to no longer have a GPS in your car!)
Also, like a GPS, a divorce coach can also guide you to take the most efficient route through your divorce – one that has less conflict, heartache, and expense.
Karen kept me moving forward
"Karen has been an incredible resource for me in the first few years of a high conflict co-parenting situation. She has helped me grow in setting boundaries and diffusing unnecessary conflict, while also helping me to understand how to own the power I have and how to make decisions that are right for me and my family. She is always encouraging and insightful, while also being just enough of an accountability for me to keep me moving forward, even through difficult steps. I know that I am far more confident and hopeful for my future having worked with Karen!"
How We Can Work Together
If you are interested in working with me as your coach, fill out and submit the form below. When I get your request, I’ll send you an email as soon as I can. (I try to respond within 2 business days, so please be patient!)
I'll email you back. We’ll set up a quick talk. We’ll make sure we’re a good fit. Then we start.
That's really all there is to it.
- If you're tired of being stuck bouncing back and forth in your head trying to figure out whether you should stay or you should go;
- If you're facing divorced and feeling totally overwhelmed with everything you've got to do;
- If you're worried that you won't make the best decisions and will get taken advantage of in your divorce ...
Do yourself a favor.
I can help.
PS If contacting me and getting the help you need sounds too simple (or too scary!) to you, that probably means it's exactly what you know you need to do.