Many people see divorce as a game – and one they definitely want to win! Actually, they don’t just want to win. They also want to make sure their spouse loses! To achieve those ends, these players adopt divorce strategies that they believe will catapult them ahead of their spouse. What they don’t … Read more about 7 Divorce Strategies to Avoid (Unless You’re a Masochist!)
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No one in their right mind wants to spend years of their lives, and tens (or hundreds) of thousands of dollars fighting a contested divorce. That’s probably why so many people start their divorce believing that it will be uncontested. They want to believe their divorce will be amicable. A few … Read more about If One of These Things is True, You’re Headed For a Contested Divorce
When your spouse first says, “I want a divorce,” you feel like you just got sucker-punched by the Heavyweight Champion of the World. Time slows down, and everything seems a little surreal. Even if you were the one who decided to pull the trigger on your divorce, you probably still don’t feel much … Read more about How to Deal With Heartbreak: 29 Tips to Get You Through Your Divorce
When you’re trying to get through divorce it’s easy to feel overwhelmed. Divorce adds so many extra things to your “To Do” list that it’s like a second job! What’s even worse is that everything is so uncertain, so unclear, that you’re not sure what you’re supposed to do. Plus, you don’t feel … Read more about The Secret Way to Get Through Divorce Without Being Overwhelmed
When you’re divorcing a narcissist, the rules are different. In a “normal” divorce (if there is such a thing), people get angry and then they get over it. They do stupid things, but then they feel sorry about it. Their divorce craziness is more like temporary insanity than a permanent mental … Read more about Divorcing a Narcissist? 10 Survival Tips You’re Going to Need
Did you ever wish you had a fairy godmother? Someone who could just wave a magic wand and make all the ugliness of your divorce go away? Or, maybe you wish you had a superpower that would let you repair your relationship without a single harsh word? While superpowers and fairy godmothers may be the … Read more about 5 Ways Divorce Counseling Can Save You
It’s awkward. All you did was ask your friend what was up. The last thing you expected to hear was, “I’m getting a divorce.” Now what are you supposed to do?! You want to be supportive, but you also don’t want to intrude. You're scared about saying the wrong thing, but you’re not sure what the right … Read more about 21 Ways to Support a Friend Going through a Divorce
You walk out of the court room with a sinking feeling in the pit of your stomach. Your case just got continued for what seems like the hundredth time. It’s been dragging on for well over a year. Your divorce lawyer has doesn’t seem to care. He told you not to worry. Now you’re wondering whether a … Read more about Can You (Should You) Change Attorneys During Your Divorce?
Good divorce advice is like a shelter on high ground in a tsunami. You need it when you need it. When you don’t need it, you’re rarely paying attention to it … which is why you may have missed some of the divorce advice in my best divorce blog posts this past year. But, not to worry. Here is a … Read more about Top 10 Best Divorce Blog Posts of 2016
What do you do when someone verbally attacks you for no apparent reason? What do you do when someone over reacts to the smallest perceived slight – even when you didn’t mean to offend them? How do you handle the critical, angry, and self-absorbed bad behavior of high conflict people? It’s not … Read more about How to Handle High Conflict People in Divorce and in Life
Having “the divorce conversation” sucks. It doesn’t matter whether you are the person who is breaking the news that you want a divorce, or the person who is listening in disbelief as your spouse tells you that your marriage is over. Either way, you are in pain. How to tell your spouse that you want … Read more about How to Tell Your Spouse That You Want a Divorce
Divorce sucks for a whole lot of reasons, not the least of which is that you have no idea what to expect. So much of what happens in divorce seems unpredictable and unfair. Yet, as every divorce professional knows, even though every divorce is different, there are definite stages of divorce. There … Read more about How Understanding the Stages of Divorce Can Make Your Divorce Easier
“Going through a divorce is so much fun! It’s so uplifting and inspirational.” ... said NO ONE. Ever. Divorce is a roller coaster ride of negative emotions. Even going through the most amicable divorce hurts. That’s why learning how to cope with divorce is so important. Unfortunately, unless you … Read more about 10 Pro Tips for How To Cope With Divorce
I want a divorce but my husband doesn’t. I have been unhappy for years. I’ve tried to talk to him. No response. I tried to get him to go to marriage counseling. He said okay, but never went. I told him I was going to a divorce lawyer. He was upset at first, but now acts like nothing has changed. I … Read more about I Want a Divorce But My Husband Doesn’t: Am I Stuck?
You just realized you are getting divorced. While you are trying to wrap your head around what that is going to mean for you, and for your kids, a million divorce questions flood your brain. What happened to your marriage? How are you going to survive? What is going to happen with your kids? Are you … Read more about What Are The 3 Divorce Questions You Should Not Ask?
It seems like a crazy question: Are you thankful for your divorce? Who would ever be thankful that their life was turned upside down, their dreams dashed to pieces, and their family changed forever? Why would anyone be thankful for the pain, the misery, the disruption, or the financial … Read more about A Different View: 8 Reasons to be Thankful for Your Divorce
We all know that we are supposed to take the high road in life. We have heard it from our parents, teachers, spiritual leaders, and even that little voice in our head that always has an opinion about what we “should” do. But what exactly does it mean to take the high road in divorce? Here are a few … Read more about 10 Ways to Take the High Road In Divorce – And the Best Reason to Do It
Were you the one who pulled the trigger on your divorce? If so, my guess is that you have probably asked yourself one (or more) of these questions a thousand times: “Are things really so bad that I need to get divorced?” “Am I giving up too soon?” “How can I do this to my kids?” and “Am I going to … Read more about Are You on a Divorce Guilt Trip?
No one in their right mind would ever knowingly give away their power, their energy, or their ability to control their own future at the one time in life when they need it the most - when they are getting a divorce. Yet, I see people doing it every day. Here are 7 surprising ways you may be giving … Read more about 7 Surprising Ways You Are Giving Away Your Power in Divorce
How do you think divorce – and specifically YOUR divorce if you are in the middle of one – should go? Should everything be amicable? Should you be able to get along for the sake of the kids? Or, do you think it is more likely that you and your spouse will be battling like Roman gladiators over … Read more about The Secret Key to Minimizing Divorce Drama: Managing Expectations!
Divorce and yoga. At first blush they seem so different. Yoga and divorce. One is so Zen. The other is about as “un-Zen” as you could possibly get. Yet, as I was trying to balance in Eagle pose yesterday, standing on one leg with my arms and legs wrapped around each other like pretzels and the sweat … Read more about Divorce and Yoga: 10 Surprising Insights For a Zen Divorce
What makes celebrity divorces different from the average, run-of-the-mill marital split? You might think the answer is money, seemingly unlimited resources, or visibility. After all, celebrity divorces often get enormous amounts of publicity, are staffed with the best, high-powered divorce … Read more about What Do Celebrity Divorces Have That We Don’t … But Should?
It’s not a secret any more. Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner have announced their divorce after 10 years of marriage. While some are surprised that this seemingly solid couple with three beautiful children has split, what’s most encouraging is how the two are handling their situation. Here are seven … Read more about Insights from the Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner Divorce
... But You Are Getting Divorced Anyway. Not everyone believes in divorce. Some people don’t believe in divorce for religious reasons. Other people don’t believe that it is ever ok to break a vow. Still other people believe that, although divorce may be an option for other people, it is not an … Read more about What to Do When You Don’t Believe in Divorce …