If you ask any lawyer why divorce is so expensive s/he will tell you that it’s because conflict costs money. The more you and your spouse fight, the more your divorce will cost. But, saying that fighting is what drives up the cost of divorce is like saying that eating the wrong foods will make … Read more about The Real Reason That Divorce is so Expensive
We all know that divorce, especially high conflict divorce, can be devastating. Plenty of people are so traumatized that it takes them years to recover from divorce. Really high conflict divorces have even been known to cause post traumatic stress disorder. Yet, while some divorcees struggle to … Read more about Post Traumatic Growth: The Ultimate Way to Recover From Divorce
When you’re divorcing a narcissist, the rules are different. In a “normal” divorce (if there is such a thing), people get angry and then they get over it. They do stupid things, but then they feel sorry about it. Their divorce craziness is more like temporary insanity than a permanent mental … Read more about Divorcing a Narcissist? 10 Survival Tips You’re Going to Need
Did you ever wish you had a fairy godmother? Someone who could just wave a magic wand and make all the ugliness of your divorce go away? Or, maybe you wish you had a superpower that would let you repair your relationship without a single harsh word? While superpowers and fairy godmothers may be the … Read more about 5 Ways Divorce Counseling Can Save You
What do life insurance and divorce have in common? Besides being confusing, they’re both uncomfortable realities that most people would rather avoid. They are also often intertwined. If you don’t understand how life insurance works in your divorce, you and your loved ones can suffer huge financial … Read more about Life Insurance and Divorce: Are You as Secure as You Think?
If the thought of going to a divorce hearing terrifies you, you’re not alone. Divorce court is terrifying – not only because it’s completely different than anything you’ve ever experienced before, but also because you have so much at stake. Actually, you have everything at stake. If you want to … Read more about 20 Smart Tips to Get Through Your Divorce Hearing with Ease
When you’re going through a divorce, hiring a divorce financial planner seems like one more expense you honestly don’t need. If you’re like most people, you probably assume that you have enough common sense to figure out your finances yourself. With your divorce expenses mounting, divorce financial … Read more about 8 Ways Divorce Financial Planning Can Help You Avoid Costly Mistakes
Very few people are at their best when they are getting a divorce. That’s not surprising. It’s hard to operate at the top of your game when your entire life has just imploded and it feels like you’re walking around with an ice pick in your chest. The irony, of course, is that, at the very time in … Read more about 21 Mistakes NOT to Make When Getting a Divorce
Why is it that, even when you know what you should do, you don’t do it? You want to do it. You intend to do it. But at the same time, the very thought of doing the thing you know you should do (like, get a divorce) terrifies you. So you wait, turned into stone by your fear of divorce. Meanwhile, … Read more about 9 Tips for Managing Your Fear of Divorce
There’s never a good time to do certain things. Like get a root canal. Or, discover you have a brain tumor. Or get a divorce. But, when you know deep inside that your marriage is in serious trouble, and you can’t remember the last time you were happy, it’s natural to wonder whether it may be time to … Read more about When is it Time to Divorce? 18 Questions to Help You Decide
Good divorce advice is like a shelter on high ground in a tsunami. You need it when you need it. When you don’t need it, you’re rarely paying attention to it … which is why you may have missed some of the divorce advice in my best divorce blog posts this past year. But, not to worry. Here is a … Read more about Top 10 Best Divorce Blog Posts of 2016
What do you give someone who is going through a divorce? You don’t want to get too personal, yet you don’t want to seem insensitive either. You want to be helpful, but you don’t want to meddle. So, what is the perfect gift for your divorcing friend? Why, divorce books (or books to take their mind … Read more about 20 Best Divorce Books For Your Divorcing Friend (or You!)
What do you do when someone verbally attacks you for no apparent reason? What do you do when someone over reacts to the smallest perceived slight – even when you didn’t mean to offend them? How do you handle the critical, angry, and self-absorbed bad behavior of high conflict people? It’s not … Read more about How to Handle High Conflict People in Divorce and in Life
Divorce and health insurance rank at the top of list of complicated and painful things you would rather not think about. That’s not surprising. Getting divorced is like having a hurricane drop into your life. Suddenly, everything in your world is whirling around you and you don’t know what to do … Read more about Divorce and Health Insurance: Does COBRA Make Sense For You?
Have you ever tried to play a game without understanding the rules? If you have, chances are, the game did not go well for you. You probably lost big time. Going through a divorce is similar. In order to survive it (because no one ever really “wins” in divorce), you have to understand how divorce … Read more about How Divorce Works: 10 Rules You Need to Understand
Gray divorce: “the demographic trend of an increasing divorce rate for older ("grey-haired") couples in long-lasting marriages.” You are over 50 – maybe over 60. Presumably you are old enough to know that people “your age” are not supposed to get divorced. Yet, here you are: stuck in a … Read more about 50 Shades of Gray Divorce
Your marriage hasn’t been good for years. Your spouse has been distant. Your sex life is non-existent. You’ve tried everything you can think of to make things better: marriage counseling, couples retreats, “date nights.” Nothing has worked. After agonizing about what to do for what seems like … Read more about You’re Getting Divorced, NOW Your Spouse Wants to Work on Your Marriage!
Divorce sucks for a whole lot of reasons, not the least of which is that you have no idea what to expect. So much of what happens in divorce seems unpredictable and unfair. Yet, as every divorce professional knows, even though every divorce is different, there are definite stages of divorce. There … Read more about How Understanding the Stages of Divorce Can Make Your Divorce Easier
Let’s face it. Divorce is expensive. Not only do you have to pay court costs and legal fees, but you are also likely to be racking up therapy bills too. Add that to the cost of establishing a second household, plus all of the hidden costs of divorce (moving, selling your home, taxes, separate health … Read more about How to Get a Divorce Without Breaking the Bank
Your family and friends mean well. They only want what is best for you. So, when your marriage falls apart, they can’t help but give you what they honestly believe is the perfect divorce advice. Only ... it’s not. As a matter of fact, all too often, the advice you get from your family and friends is … Read more about The Worst Divorce Advice Your Family Ever Gave You
It seems like a crazy question: Are you thankful for your divorce? Who would ever be thankful that their life was turned upside down, their dreams dashed to pieces, and their family changed forever? Why would anyone be thankful for the pain, the misery, the disruption, or the financial … Read more about A Different View: 8 Reasons to be Thankful for Your Divorce
When the word “divorce” first pops into your consciousness, it’s normal to feel like you are in a slow motion movie, where everything else around you stops and all of your perceptions become distorted. Even after “reality” returns, it’s hard to focus and to wrap your head around what’s happening. … Read more about 10 Pieces of Bad Divorce Advice that Lawyers Give Clients