What If You Could Make a Decision About Your Marriage that You Felt Confident About?
Deciding whether to divorce is HUGE!
But NOT deciding whether to divorce, and twisting in your head about whether you should stay married or get a divorce, is HELL.
It's a hell you can stay trapped in for years .. sometimes decades.
You know that getting a divorce will change EVERYTHING. You also know that staying in your marriage the way that it is now is sucking the life out of you.
Every day that passes is one more day lost.
Meanwhile, you keep playing the same scenarios in your head, over and over again.
You picture what going through a divorce will do to you and your kids. You think about missing out on at least half of your kids' childhood AND losing at least half of everything you own. You wonder if anyone will ever love you again.
You decide to stay married.
Then your spouse does something stupid. You have the same argument you've had 100 times before. You go to bed alone ... again. You can't remember when the last time was that you had sex.
Then you go back to thinking about divorce.
You're going in circles.
Meanwhile your life is passing you by.
I will help you get off the emotional rollercoaster, deal with your procrastination and guilt, and help you figure out whether divorce is really right for you … or not.
"I felt I needed help to make one of the most important decisions in my life and to get unstuck. ... This retreat gave me knowledge I did not have and tools for me to use. I wish this was available years ago!"
A Simple Test
How many of these apply to you?
If you said “Yes” to more than one of these factors, you know your marriage is in trouble.
... the Fact That Your Marriage Is In Trouble Is NOT Your Biggest Problem!
Your biggest problem is that you can’t decide what to do about it.
If you could really commit to working on your marriage, you would have a chance to make it better.
If you could really commit to getting a divorce, your life would probably suck for a little while. (Sorry!) But you would have a chance to create a much better life for yourself and your kids than the one you're living now.
But until you can commit to something, you don't have a chance to do anything!
You are going exactly NOWHERE.
What’s worse: You can stay continue to go NOWHERE for YEARS!
I’ve worked with people who couldn’t decide whether to divorce for DECADES!
Do you know what they all said? "I feel like I've wasted my life."
While they spent years deciding whether to stay or whether to go, their lives kept going ... and NOT in a direction they wanted.
What's worse, the longer they did nothing, the harder it was for them to DO anything. And nothing ever changed.
Of course ...
Making A Decision About Something As World-Changing As Divorce Isn’t Easy.
You don’t want to leave if there’s still a chance that things can get better. You made a vow. You don't want to give up on your marriage.
(Plus, you’re worried about what divorce will do to your kids.)
You’re also worried about money … and rightly so!
The average cost of a divorce is $15,000 – $30,000 … and that’s only if you don’t make it a huge fight!
At the same time, you know that money can't buy happiness. It can't buy love.
Is this what the rest of your life is going to look like?
What if nothing ever changes?
Are you going to regret never trying to live the life you really want to live?
You don't have the answers. But you can't stop the questions.
So you ask yourself the same questions over and over again in your head. Sometimes you ask them so much that you can't sleep at night.
Meanwhile, you feel trapped.
And that makes you feel awful. You hate your situation. Sometimes you even hate yourself.
Even people who have no problem making other kinds of decisions – people who make decisions every single day at work and at home -- have trouble deciding whether or not they should get a divorce.
It’s not just that with divorce you have so much at stake (although you do!).
It’s that …
No One Ever Taught You How To MAKE THIS KIND OF DECISION!
The truth is that, when it comes to deciding whether to divorce, the decision making tools most people use – DON’T WORK!
• Making a list of Pros and Cons about why you should or shouldn’t stay married will only get you more confused than when you started.
• Asking for advice won’t work because you don’t really want other people all up in your business – plus they don’t know your situation the way you do. They're not you. What's more, if you HAVE asked for advice, you probably got totally different answers from different people.
• “Following your heart” or “Listening to Your Head,” sound good. But your head and your heart are both so confused and conflicted that you just keep going back and forth, and back and forth, and back and forth, and ... !
Here’s a Secret:
None of those decision-making techniques will work in divorce.
But there ARE techniques that do work.
That’s what the Decision Day Retreat is all about.
"Going through this process was helpful and not feeling like I needed to leave today with a decision was key. ...The Decision Day Retreat introduced me to new techniques to think about outside of the traditional pros/cons - which doesn't work for this."
The Decision Day Retreat is about using decision-making tools that WORK so you can actually make a decision and -- more importantly-- make a decision you can live with!
Okay BUT ... (The Infamous “But!”)
Now, at this point you may be thinking that all of that sounds great, BUT you’re also feeling a little skeptical, and maybe even a little concerned. You have all sorts of fears, some of which sound like this …
• I’m worried that no matter what I do, I still won’t be able to make a decision;
• I’m worried that my spouse will find out what I’m doing;
• I’m worried that I’ll be forced into making a decision I can’t live with;
• I’m worried about confidentiality and privacy;
• I’m worried that I won’t be able to get away for a whole day retreat.
If any of those concerns popped up in your mind, I want you to know:
I Get It!
As an attorney who has dealt with sensitive family and marriage-related issues for decades, I know how gut-wrenching the decision to divorce can be.
I've watched people twist over this decision and go back and forth for what seems like forever.
I know that privacy, confidentiality, and yes, secrecy, are important.
I understand that you need to know HOW to make a decision, but you don't want to be FORCED to make a decision.
I also know that you probably think that, because I'm a divorce lawyer, I'm going to push you into getting a divorce.
But here's what you don't know:
Unlike other divorce lawyers, I have no interest in seeing that you get divorced.
I don't want to be the lawyer in your divorce. I'm not even taking new litigated divorce cases as a lawyer and I haven't taken them for years. You couldn't hire me to represent you in your divorce even if you wanted to.
Unlike marriage counselors, I'm not going to push you to stay married.
I'm not a marriage counselor. I'm a coach. My goal is to bring you confidence, clarity, and peace of mind - whether you stay married or not.
I've helped people save their marriage, and I've helped people end their marriage.
What matters to me is that you get off the roller-coaster of indecision so that you can move on and have an amazing life - whether you're married or you're divorced!
Here’s what one of my clients has said:
"I was lost, I didn’t know what to do or who to talk to when my wife thought we should get a divorce. I have known Karen for a number of years and I knew she specializes in situations like this, so I called her. She talked me down from the abyss I was standing over.
We laid out a plan she believed would help me, my family and my marriage. It has been 3 years and my wife and I are still together."
I will give you the tools and information you need to make a decision.
I'll help you dig deeply inside yourself so you can start to find the decision that's truly right for you.
But I’m not going to bar the door and force you to stay until you make up your mind about what you want to do.
What if, at the end of the day, you haven’t made a decision?
Believe it or not, what’s most important is NOT that you make a decision while you’re physically at the retreat.
(Honestly, putting that kind of pressure on yourself is one of the things that will PREVENT you from making a decision!)
You don't just need a decision. You also need a PLAN.
Having a PLAN determines whether you will actually implement your decision, or just fall right back into stressing out over what you should or shouldn't do.
That’s why, as part of the Decision Day Retreat, we will spend time making YOUR ACTION PLAN.
Here’s What We’ll Cover in the Decision Day Retreat:
You Will Also Take Some Things With You After You Leave the Retreat, Like …
PLUS you’ll have the benefit of my expertise and experience to answer your questions and guide you all along the way.
"I learned so much about why I have been stuck and what I can actually do to move in a positive direction rather than stay locked in indecision because of fear and uncertainty. Coming to terms with this today was huge."
But how can I get away for a whole DAY without my spouse finding out?
Yes, I know. Getting away can be a challenge.
Because of that, I’ve done all I can to make it easy for you to participate in the retreat:
At the same time, while getting away may not be super easy, there’s a reason why I’m doing this as a live retreat, not an anonymous webinar:
I WANT YOU TO GET RESULTS!
This is a BIG decision. It’s intensely PERSONAL. It takes time and deep thought.
If you think that you’re going to talk to someone for an hour or two, or watch some impersonal webinar, and immediately know what you should do with your marriage, you’re kidding yourself!
Giving yourself the gift of time to focus on YOU and what YOU WANT will help you get clear about your marriage and get OFF the rollercoaster of indecision!
What's Your Investment?
If you were to hire me to coach you individually for the same amount of time you will be working with me here it would cost you at least $3000.
It would also take you longer to get the results you want.
(When you're working on something for an hour here and an hour there, you can't make the same kind of progress that you can make when you are totally immersed in reaching your goal.)
That's why I created this retreat.
Getting away can make a HUGE difference in the results you get.
By giving you a place where you can get away and spend an entire day focusing solely on YOU, you can dive deeper and move farther faster.
Here's what a past participant said:
"I went to the Decision Day Retreat to get some clarity. I got that. The retreat helped me to see both sides of my relationship more clearly. It made me decide to appreciate what I have and I decided to work harder in that direction. I would recommend this retreat to others because in it you can talk without fear. I’m glad I went. It was well worth the time and money."
So what will it cost you to spend a day focusing on yourself and getting clear about what to do with your marriage and your life?
... LESS than you would pay a divorce lawyer OR a marriage counselor!
The average divorce costs $15,000 - $30,000 and takes 18 months.
The Decision Day Retreat takes one day, and costs:
$1,197 ... if you get in!
Here's the deal.
Not everyone who wants to come will be able to do so!
Because I want you to be in an atmosphere that's relaxing, safe, and will help you think clearly, I'm purposely keeping the size of the retreat small.
Only 10 people can participate in this retreat.
Once the 10 spots are filled, the retreat will be closed. No exceptions.
What's more, if you're not willing to sign a confidentiality agreement in advance attesting to the fact that you will keep everything that happens at Decision Day confidential, you can't come. Period. (Sorry, not sorry!)
I take your confidence seriously.
The other thing you need to know is that, at this retreat you'll be getting A LOT MORE than just information …
You'll also be getting a LOT of personal time with me.
As members of this retreat, I’ll be spending extra time with you, before, during, and after the retreat.
I'll be talking with you before the retreat starts so I can learn more about you right from the start.
I'll also be talking again with you after the retreat is over to make sure you're going in the right direction and are ready to deal with anything that might still be standing in your way.
Right now you can participate in this retreat for only $1,197 ...
…which, by the way, is less than what you would spend for just a few hours with a divorce attorney.
What you'll learn at the retreat about divorce will pay for itself in attorney's fees you won't have to spend asking basic questions about divorce.
The doors to the Decision Day Retreat are open now, but they won’t be for long.
Decision Day Retreat: February 28, 2020
Hilton Rosemont/Chicago O'Hare
The Practical Stuff:
• The retreat will be held from 8:30am – 4:30pm on Friday, February 28, 2020, at the Hilton Rosemont/Chicago O’Hare at 5550 N. River Road, Rosemont, Illinois. You will be able to easily get to and from the retreat whether you live in the Chicago area or you’re flying in from somewhere else;
(NOTE: For a limited time you will be able to get a discounted room rate at the Hilton. To claim your discount, use the discount code DDD when making your reservation!)
• The retreat will be for both men and women;
• You will not get any materials about the retreat in the mail. All correspondence will be via the email address you use to sign up;
• What will appear on your credit card is just random letters. Your credit card will not say anything about divorce, separation, or decision making. (Btw, if you don't want ANYTHING on your credit card, you can use a prepaid debit card, Venmo, or Paypal);
• In order to participate in the retreat YOU MUST BE WILLING TO SIGN A CONFIDENTIALITY AGREEMENT IN ADVANCE stating that you will keep everything that is said at the retreat completely confidential. If you’re not willing to sign the agreement, you can’t participate in the retreat!;
• During the retreat, you are free to use whatever name you choose. The only one who needs to know your real name is me.
Your Life Can Be So Much Better ... But You Have to Take the First Step in the Right Direction!
If you’re tired of spending sleepless nights agonizing about whether you should get a divorce or not;
If you’re sick of endlessly bouncing back and forth in your head over what to do about your marriage and your life;
If you’re done with the frustration that comes with feeling like you have no options and your life is passing you by …
Then CLICK THE BUTTON BELOW and register now for the Decision Day Retreat.
"Thank you so much for providing this retreat. I learned that I have the strength, the information and the tools within myself to choose where I go from here. I came away with new insight and tools to help me along the way."
I hope to see you at the retreat!
P.S. If you’re having a hard time deciding whether you should come, let me be so bold as to suggest that that might be the EXACT REASON why you SHOULD come! … just sayin’.