The Ultimate List of Divorce Support Groups and Why You Need One!

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You probably never expected that someday you would be scouring the internet looking for divorce support groups. Not only did you believe that your marriage was going to last forever, but joining a divorce support group was just not something you ever thought would be on your radar screen.

But, then everything changed.

Your marriage took a turn for the worse, and now, in spite of your dreams and best intentions, you are facing divorce. And you feel so alone.

You want to talk to your friends. But, you don’t want to burden them with all of the gory details of the pain and problems you are going through. Plus, unless they have been through a divorce themselves, you worry that they won’t understand.

You could talk to your divorce lawyer. But that costs you $400 an hour for the privilege. Plus, your lawyer is busy. He often doesn’t get back to you for days, and when he does, he makes you feel like a complete idiot for calling. Somehow, the crisis that seemed so urgent when you called him initially, now sounds childish and silly.

Talking to your therapist is a much better bet. But it, too, costs money. On top of that, there are only so many times you can call your therapist before you look like you’re really crazy!

What you wish you could find is an open and empathetic divorced friend, someone who has been down the road of divorce and can “teach you the ropes.” You want to talk to someone who understands, someone who can point you in the right direction, and give you a shoulder to lean on, too – preferably without charging you more than you owe on your mortgage.

You need a divorce support group.

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Do I Really Need a Divorce Support Group?

If the thought of joining a divorce support group sounds crazy to you, you might want to stop and ask yourself: Why?

Maybe you feel like divorce support groups are only for people who really have problems. But, news flash: getting divorced IS a problem! It is actually a whole lot of problems, all wrapped up in one big, ugly package.

Finding a group of people who can listen to your problems, and help you deal with them, is exactly what you need. That is what divorce support groups do.

Of course, every group is different.

Some, like DivorceCare, are faith based. Others are not. Some, like The Lilac Tree in Evanston, IL, are just for women. Others are just for men. (Although there aren’t a lot of men’s divorce support groups out there. Men will usually have a much better chance of finding a support group if they look for a general men’s group.)

Some groups allow both men and women to join them. (A lot of the local “Meet Up” groups in your area are probably like that.)

Some groups, like DivorceForce and Divorce Separation and Singles Support have an online community. Others, like Divorced Moms on a Mission, and Jason Levoy with Your Divorce Resource Community, have awesome closed Facebook groups (that gives you privacy! Just send them a request if you want to be included in the group.). Still others take the good, old-fashioned, meet in person approach.

But, no matter what kind of divorce support group you find, you might still find yourself wondering:

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What Do Divorce Support Groups Do?

Depending upon their mission, divorce support groups can do anything from helping you get through your divorce, to learning how to heal from the pain after your divorce is over. They may provide you with lists of resources, or professional referrals.

Some divorce support groups will help educate you about the ins and outs of divorce. Some of them will sponsor seminars on different divorce topics. Others will bring in speakers to your regular meetings.

Mostly, the people in divorce support groups talk.

They talk about their experiences. They share their knowledge and they share their pain. Most of all, they share their stories.

And they listen.

They support each other when they are down and cheer each other on. They form a community.

Can’t find a divorce support group near you? Join my Facebook Support Group: Thrive Through Uncertainty. It’s positive, uplifting and, of course, supportive! It’s open to men and women. It’s free. CLICK HERE to join.

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The Value of Community

Human beings are social creatures. We need other people. We need community. In primitive societies, being excluded from your tribe, your community, often meant death.

Today, being alone has much less dire consequences. But that still doesn’t mean that, as humans, we don’t long for community – a group where we can “fit in” … especially when times are tough.

Nothing is as comforting when you are going through your own personal “dark night” as knowing that you are not alone. No act is more precious than the simple act of having someone listen to you without judgment or interruption. No advice is more welcome than the advice you get from those who have walked the road you are walking on before.

Of course, in our own heads, we often think to ourselves, “I’m okay. I’ve got this,” even when nothing could be further from the truth. We stoically trudge through tough times sporting a “stiff upper lip,” when inside, we are a wreck.

But, it doesn’t have to be that way.

Divorce support groups can offer a welcoming community where you can be yourself and share your story without judgment. As one of the characters in the movie, Welcome to the Men’s Group, so aptly puts it: “We are an asshole free zone.”

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How Do I Find a Divorce Support Group?

No matter how much you might be intrigued by the idea of talking to other people who are going through the same craziness as you are, finding a divorce support group in your area may seem like a gigantic task. Plus, it’s not like you have gobs of free time right now.

Yet, in our super-connected internet world, finding a divorce support group couldn’t be easier today.

Here are some of the most prominent divorce support groups, and lists of divorce support groups, both online and off.

Divorce Support Group Locators

Divorce Support group locators are NOT support groups themselves, but they collect the names and contact information from divorce support groups all over the U.S., and all over the world. Some are paid listings. Others are free. Either way, if you can’t find a divorce support group in your area that meets your needs, it’s worth checking these support group locators to see if there are other groups around that you just haven’t found yet.

Psychology Today

Organized by country, state, and city, the Psychology Today Divorce Support Group locator is an amazing resource for anyone looking for a support group. It lists hundreds of different divorce support groups specializing in everything from anger and depression to infidelity and co-parenting. You can search by state, city, zip code, or name of the group. As an added plus, you can also search for a therapist, psychiatrist, or treatment center from the same page.

This website provides a wealth of resources for divorcing women. Go to their State Divorce Resources Page and click on your state. Then scroll down the menu on that page to see your state’s divorce support group page. You can also navigate to pages with information about your state’s divorce laws, lawyers, mediation, and parenting classes from the same state page.

Meetup Groups

Meetup Groups are organized around a variety of different topics, interest groups and locations. According to the website’s statistics, there are over 959 different divorce support meetup groups, with over 288,700 members scattered across the world. Some are organized and run by professionals. (For example, the Long Beach Divorce/Separation Recovery Group is run by Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Liz Liskin). Others are run by non-professionals. Just go to the Meetup divorce support group web page, join Meetup (it’s free!) and browse around until you find a group that interests you.

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Faith-Based Divorce Support Groups


The largest faith-based divorce support organization by far is DivorceCare. DivorceCare hosts weekly meetings in churches and faith communities all over the world.  The meetings start with a 30 – 40 minute informational session, followed by a discussion period. You can search their website directory by city or state to find a group near you. You can also sign up for their free email service to get a daily email from them every day for a year.

Catholic Divorce Support Organizations

Many Catholic churches now have divorce support groups for their divorced parishioners. There is also a Catholic program called Surviving Divorce that is available in some areas. To see if there is a program near you check out the Catholics Divorce website. You can also check out the DivorcedCatholic website. They have programs, workshops and inspiration for divorcing Catholics.

Jewish Divorce Support Organizations

Jewish Child and Family Services offers a number of education and support groups for those going through a divorce, as well as those dealing with other life challenges. Divorcing Jewish women might also want to check out Sister to Sister, a women’s organization within the Jewish community that supports divorced Jewish women and their children.

Other Christian Divorce Support Organizataions

The Christian Divorce Support website offers a variety of services to divorcing Christians.

Islamic Divorce Support Organizations

Finding information about Islamic Divorce Support Groups was tough. The only public group I could find was on the Facebook Page, The Divorced Muslimah. You can also check out an interesting article about divorcing muslim women entitled North American Muslim Women, Post Divorce. (It may not be a support group, but at least its something!)

Other Religious Organizations

While religions themselves may not openly support divorce, many churches, synagogues, temples and religious institutions quietly support their members who are going through a divorce. It may seem a bit old-fashioned, and it’s definitely low-tech, but if you want to know if your church has a divorce support group, just contact your church leader and ask! (If you don’t want your church leader to know you’re asking, call his/her office anonymously. Just make sure to block your number before you call!)

Live Divorce Support Groups

 You can find live, in-person divorce support groups in your area by either asking around, or checking the Divorce Support Group Locators noted above. Therapists also usually know about good support groups in their areas.

Here is one local support group for women in the Chicago area. Finding divorce support groups for men is a bit harder (Sorry, guys!). But I’m including a link to an amazing guy who runs general support groups for men – and who can help you start your own group if you’re so inclined!

The Lilac Tree

Based in Evanston, Illinois, the Lilac Tree provides support groups and educational programs for women before, during and after divorce. The Lilac Tree’s support groups are therapist-led, structured groups that run for 8 weeks at a time. They are well known in the Chicago area for being a tremendous resource for divorcing women.

The Oasis Experience

Run by Divorce Coach Linda Lucatorto, Creating the Life You Deserve is a 7 week empowerment program for women. The groups are purposely kept small to encourage participants to share their ideas, feelings and experiences. The group focuses on positive change. It is open to all women who are thinking about divorce, going through divorce, or trying to heal after divorce.

Evryman Programs  

Organized and run by a group of dynamic men, the Evryman Programs are run by men, for men. These modern tribes are located all over the world. They help men slow down, be present, and be vulnerable to create change and resiliency – all of which is definitely an asset when you’re going through a divorce!

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Online Divorce Support Groups

Reddit Divorce

Reddit is, among other things, a discussion website where registered users submit content on various topics. Reddit divorce is a place where divorcing people can vent, post comments, and respond to others’ comments. Discussions are organized in threads in a newsfeed. Contributors to this discussion are either going through a divorce, have been through a divorce, or are contemplating divorce. To be able to post on Reddit you must register, but registration is free.

This website looks and feels a lot like Reddit Divorce, except that, in addition to the various conversation threads, also has various sub-groups, organized by topic. So, you can participate in a discussion devoted specifically to the topic you are interested in. Like Reddit, you need to join the website in order to be able to post anything on it. But registration is free.

In addition to providing information on various divorce support groups, also has its own divorce chat and message forum. The Woman’s Divorce chat says that it’s a place to discuss your troubles, compare ex’s, offer suggestions, and share stories. Like most of the other online forums, is free. However, unlike the other forums, registration does not appear to be required to participate in the chat. is a global, peer-to-peer support resource where people can interact, share, and discuss interpersonal relationships with partners, children, parents, co-workers, friends, and neighbors. Conversations are organized by topic and include everything from romantic to business relationships. (It is not divorce-specific.) To participate in a conversation you must register. But, again, registration is free.

Midlife Divorce Recovery

The Midlife Divorce Recovery (MDR) website provides an online community for divorcing women in mid-life. MDR also provides blog articles and information about divorce. The goal of the MDR community is to provide a safe and secure online divorce support group. It is open to women who are thinking about divorce, going through a divorce, or even trying to recover from divorce years after the fact. Unlike some of the other forums, MDR has a monthly membership charge.

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Facebook Divorce Support Groups

There are a TON of divorce support groups, large and small on Facebook. Here are some of the best and most popular ones I’ve found.

Thrive Through Uncertainty

Thrive Through Uncertainty is a new divorce support group that I created in March 2020, to help people navigate the uncertainties that go along with marital struggles, divorce, dating, and CoVid-19! It is a unique, upbeat, positive group that’s open to anyone who is struggling with life’s uncertainties. It’s open to men and women and is full of funny memes, helpful videos, inspirational quotes, and real-life advice.

Divorce, Separation and Singles Support

Divorce, Separation and Singles Support is a public Facebook Page touting close to 400,000 members. This group was started by a woman named Heather in 2012 to help her while she was going through her own divorce. The page has continued to grow ever since and is currently one of the most active public Facebook Pages on divorce that you can find.

DivorcedMoms.Com is the Facebook page for the website. The website hosts a fabulous blog full of articles on divorce. The Facebook page showcases blog articles and provides a forum for discussion.

DivorcedMoms on a Mission

DivorcedMoms on a Mission is a private Facebook Group run by Since this is run as a private group instead of a page, you must get permission to join before you can see all the content or contribute to the conversation. Unlike the page, it has more memes, inspiration and conversation and less article links.

Your Divorce Resource Community

Run by New Jersey divorce attorney Jason Levoy, Your Divorce Resource Community is a private Facebook group where people going through divorce can support each other and engage in meaningful conversation. You have to get permission to join the group, but joining is free

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Should I Join a Divorce Support Group?

Joining a divorce support group may be a completely new idea for you. You may be the kind of person who has always managed to get through life without needing much help (especially if you’re a man!).

But going through a divorce is different.

It’s a world-rocking experience. It changes everything.

Today you can join a divorce support group and be virtually anonymous. You can join an online community that will be there for you no matter where you live. Or, you can venture out into a more traditional, in-person group and have the experience of actually talking face to face to a live human being who understands you and what you are going through.

Can you get through your divorce without ever even thinking about joining a divorce support group? Of course you can. If you have a strong support network around you, maybe you don’t need anything more.

… or maybe you do.

Either way, it’s for you to decide.

There’s just one thing I know for sure. No one should go through divorce alone.


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Karen Covy is a Divorce Coach, Lawyer, Mediator, Author, and Speaker. She coaches high net worth professionals and successful business owners to make hard decisions about their marriage with confidence, and to navigate divorce with dignity.  She speaks and writes about decision-making, divorce, and living life on your terms. To connect with Karen and discover how she can help you, CLICK HERE.


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  • I know support can help but I have been divorced since 2013 but separated in 2011. my ex wife has it out for me.. in the past 1 year and 1/2 she has taken me to court 4 times with contempt charges and modifications. I don’t want to sound like a cry baby. but I really can’t afford to keep this up financial, physically or mentally. dragging me to court all the time has taken a toll on my life.
    we have 2 children together 18 year old son that graduated and working as an electrician and 13 daughter 7th grade. my ex wife is not happy that in 2015 I started dating and now involved in a long term relationship.
    no after 4 years she is looking to get alimony. I pay child support weekly $156.00 ..
    can you direct me to something

    • Yikes! It sounds like you are in a terrible spot!

      It’s not unusual for an ex to start causing even more problems once you get involved in a new relationship. With your ex taking you back to court, I have to tell you that you NEED some legal advice. See if you can get a free consultation from a good local divorce lawyer. If you have to, pay for an hour of a lawyer’s time. it will be worth it.

      Go into the meeting prepared with a list of questions you want answered. Ask what your best defense to this situation is.Ask what the law says. Ask how you can get a copy of the law that pertains to your case. (You can usually find it on the internet.) Ask what evidence you will need to show the judge in support of your case. Ask what documents you need to file. Take notes and write down the answers! Then use the lawyers’ advice to do your best in court.

      I would tell you to actually hire a lawyer (that’s really the best thing in these situations) but, it doesn’t sound like you can afford it. Plus, if you can afford a lawyer, it kind of looks like you can afford to pay your wife more.

      Most of all, take the high road with your kids. Don’t bad mouth your ex to them. Believe me, they are old enough to figure out what is going on. They’ll get it.

      I wish you the best.


  • I am a 56 year old man, my soon to be exwife, targeted me and married me when she was 18.
    and now is 37, we never had a ‘happy’ relation ship, because I could never do anything right, she is my first wife. she is never happy. even with her family she has a tremendous amount of conflict, we have 2 kids. now she decided that i treat her bad, and she is divorcing me, she is leaving me with the kids, which I love and I am really happy I will have them, I am keeping the house, she met this truck driver, who lives in an apartment, and is 10 years younger then me. I don’t really love her, but it bothers me.
    She agreed to leave the kids, leave me the house, and most of the money. I know that sooner or later she will see the big mistake that she made, I have already made preparations to shield my self against that.
    She is extrememlly selfish and has no direction in life, she does as she pleases, and then she blames the outcome on me. when I try to help she tells me to butt out, and when she fails she says it is my fault because I did not help her, She is not loving, even with the children, she is always yelling at them, I did not want kids, she insisted on having them and now she does not want them. the same with the dogs, she insisted on having them and now she is just leaving me to take care of them. she starts things and then she loses interest and I have to continue, thisis how I know she will fail in her next romance, the fear I have is that she will want to come back, and I don;t want her back. It still makes me feel bad, and I have to be strong for my kids. my children want to stay with me, she was never a home maker, or a loving wife or mother. she even treats her sister like crap, and her brothers do not want to come and see her. her mother ran away from her since the last time she was here. sheis controlling and selfish.
    I would like to find a suppor group in houston tx, or pasadena tx, if you can help please let me know, I don’t have a family (brothers, sisters) or any one to find support,

    • Here’s another link to Owen Marcus’ webpage. He runs a lot of men’s support groups, and even helps men set up support groups. He’s not in Texas, but he’s got some great resources. You might want to check out his stuff. Here is a link:

      I hope this helps. It sounds like you are going through a really rough time.

      I wish you the best.


      • thank you, actually am getting much better now, My ex took my kids on friday, and yelled, screamed, berated and treated them like crap, and now my kids don’t want to see her or have anything to do with her. her new beau, is tired of her, and she looks like crap, am running for the hills, but I need to get my kids in therapy. that is my concern right now
        am the same guy that wrote you the above note. thank you for your support, and may you have a wonderful life

  • Thanks, Karen for sending men to me for my men’s groups. I teamed up with other men to create to help men form their own men’s groups. In a year and a half we over 70 groups around the world using our support to create amazing groups. If you are interested in one of our groups or starting one, contact us at

    • Hi Owen – I could not find a Evryman group in Atlanta. I tried navigating but was unable to find a list of locations. Is there a list you can direct us to? Thanks!

  • Hi I’m just starting, first week of April and my hearing is in this month. I’m extremely nervous and feel helpless.
    I’m in Claremont California.
    Maybe I need help.

    • You probably do. I don’t know what kind of support groups there are in Claremont, but I’m sure there are some. Google “divorce support groups near me.” That will turn up some groups.

      Also, check your local churces for DivorceCare groups.

      Finally, if you don’t already have a therapist, now would be a good time to get one. S/he can really help you deal with the nerves and anxiety that come with divorce.



  • Been divorced for five years. Finally able to feel the ground beneath my feet & able to breathe again. Do you know if any support groups in Southington, CT area.
    Thank you, Jen

    • Congratulations on being able to breathe again! It sounds like you’ve come a long way!

      I wish I could help you, but I don’t know of any support groups in Southington, CT.

      • I’m afraid I don’t know of any groups in Marietta, Georgia. But that doesn’t mean they’re not there!

        If anyone has any information about groups in Marietta and can help, please chime in here!

        • I ended up here in Marietta as well! I filed for divorce after 25 years of marriage. It’s so difficult because my soon-to-be ex-husband has been financially, emotionally, and physically abusive, and so affected by substance abuse that he’s unable to communicate at a reasonable level. He stopped all financial support and became extremely volatile and threatened my life. He denies it, though it’s moot at this point. My children and I got evicted from our apartment in Florida. He’d rented another one in another county in Florida. I had to move in with my parents and he took the kids since I wasn’t allowed to take them out of the state due to his denial of permission. He took both cars as they were in his name. I have MS and need to be where I have family and some support during this process. He’s continually threated me with lawsuits over items he thinks I stole and blames me for his business failures. He wants to remarry a woman he just met online and have her take care of our kids. I just want my kids to be safe and to get well enough to try and finish a degree. I want to start a new life and hopefully, never have to ask permission from anyone about where I can go, who I can spend time with, what I can buy (usually nothing), wear, say, when I can speak/not speak, etc….EVER AGAIN!
          My parents are on a small and fixed income. I’m doing the best I can but don’t have a driver’s license yet due to medical hold and waiting on Medicaid approval as well as necessary testing to complete “formal” process of MS diagnosis. I need a second MRI but can’t afford it.
          I sure could use a support group.

          • If you click the orange button and sign up, you will get a list of all of the support groups I’ve accumulated to date. I can’t say that I know of one specifically in Marietta. But there are some virtual groups that might be a good option.



  • Hi everyone, I’m just starting and I’m still in shock. I’m a 31 year old woman and I have been married for two years. In fact, I just celebrated my second anniversary on my 31st Birthday on Christmas Eve. I have been going through a lot of issues because I’m a United States Citizen who married a man from India in an arranged marriage. I filed all the paperwork for my husband and finally he arrived in America on February 11 2018. We stayed together in Georgia until the middle of June 2018. Then he moved to live with some of his bachelor friends and try and find a job. He visited once in August. In November we visited his parents and all of my extended family in India. Some very minor issues started up on the trip that he couldn’t let go like me calling him a liar and raising my hand to protect myself from him when he started a very loud argument when he was driving the car home after we went to dinner at my cousin’s house. He also kicked me on the trip when I was sitting with my legs crossed. I came back home December 27 and he came back January 28. On January 30, he left to Maryland and he hasn’t visited since. The past couple of months all he has done is constantly bring up all the issues from India. You see he actually thought that I would hit him and that’s why he thinks I raised my hand. On Father’s Day he emailed me that he wanted a divorce and said that it’s very simple and we can just go our separate ways. We’re in the process of divorcing and my mom has a question about me going to divorce support groups and would like to know if I am allowed to go to therapy while my lawyer files papers and builds a case. I joined a meetup group that meets pretty close to where I live and would love to know if I can go and get some support.

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