The split was hard. More than hard. It was brutal. You cried more tears than you thought you had. You went through the searing pain of moving out and (supposedly) moving on. Your divorce is in process. But when you exchanged the kids the other day, you thought you saw something in your spouse’s … Read more about Getting Back Together With Your Ex: Does Reconciling Ever Work?
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43 Most Inspiring and Motivational Divorce Quotes
When you’re going through a challenging time in life, sharing a quote can be surprisingly comforting. They can make you laugh, or make you cry. They can inspire you and motivate you. Most of all, they make you feel like you’re not alone. Maybe that’s why divorce quotes are so popular. The Power of … Read more about 43 Most Inspiring and Motivational Divorce Quotes
I Want a Divorce! … Now What? (7 First Steps When You’re Facing Divorce)
You’ve been wrestling with the idea of getting a divorce for months – maybe years. You’ve finally decided that you’re ready. (Or you’ve realized that, ready or not, you just can’t take it anymore!) You know you want a divorce. The biggest question you have now is: Now what? The Biggest Challenge … Read more about I Want a Divorce! … Now What? (7 First Steps When You’re Facing Divorce)
3 Things You MUST Agree On For A Trial Separation to Work
Your marriage isn’t going well. Okay, your marriage pretty much sucks. But the thought of getting a divorce is terrifying! You’re not even sure you want a divorce. You just want your marriage to change. You want your life to change. Maybe a trial separation will help. The problem is, everything … Read more about 3 Things You MUST Agree On For A Trial Separation to Work
Preparing for Divorce: The Top 10 Tips You’ve Got to Know
Preparing for divorce seems like the ultimate betrayal. It conjures up images of the greedy businessman who hides all of his money in off-shore accounts right before he divorces his wife. Or, the gold-digger wife who patiently waits until the pre-nup has expired before telling her husband she’s … Read more about Preparing for Divorce: The Top 10 Tips You’ve Got to Know
Is Staying in a Bad Marriage Killing You?
Staying in a bad marriage can be hell for a lot of reasons. You’re not happy. You feel like you always have to walk on eggshells. Your life is not where you want it to be. What’s worse, you’re not sure how it got to be this bad, or what you can do to change it! In truth, you’re not sure you even … Read more about Is Staying in a Bad Marriage Killing You?
9 Tips for Managing Your Fear of Divorce
Why is it that, even when you know what you should do, you don’t do it? You want to do it. You intend to do it. But at the same time, the very thought of doing the thing you know you should do (like, get a divorce) terrifies you. So you wait, turned into stone by your fear of divorce. Meanwhile, … Read more about 9 Tips for Managing Your Fear of Divorce
Top 10 Best Divorce Blog Posts of 2016
Good divorce advice is like a shelter on high ground in a tsunami. You need it when you need it. When you don’t need it, you’re rarely paying attention to it … which is why you may have missed some of the divorce advice in my best divorce blog posts this past year. But, not to worry. Here is a … Read more about Top 10 Best Divorce Blog Posts of 2016
I’m Afraid to Get Divorced, But I Don’t Want to Stay Married Either!
What do you do when your marriage is a mess, and you know you should get out, but you’re afraid to get divorced? Should you just stay married? Part of you tells yourself that you should just “buck up” and get divorced. But the thought of having to go to court and deal with all that conflict … Read more about I’m Afraid to Get Divorced, But I Don’t Want to Stay Married Either!
You’re Getting Divorced, NOW Your Spouse Wants to Work on Your Marriage!
Your marriage hasn’t been good for years. Your spouse has been distant. What's worse, your sex life is non-existent. You’ve tried everything you can think of to make things better: marriage counseling, couples retreats, “date nights.” Nothing has worked. After agonizing about what to do for what … Read more about You’re Getting Divorced, NOW Your Spouse Wants to Work on Your Marriage!
I Want a Divorce But My Husband Doesn’t: Am I Stuck?
I want a divorce but my husband doesn’t. I have been unhappy for years. I’ve tried to talk to him. No response. I tried to get him to go to marriage counseling. He said okay, but never went. I told him I was going to a divorce lawyer. He was upset at first, but now acts like nothing has changed. I … Read more about I Want a Divorce But My Husband Doesn’t: Am I Stuck?
I Am Stuck in an Unhappy Marriage and I Want a Divorce … I Think?!
Nothing is worse than being stuck in an unhappy marriage. You don't know whether you should hang in there and keep trying to make things work, or whether it’s time to give up the ghost and get a divorce. The truth is, you really don’t want a divorce. But you don’t want to live the way you are … Read more about I Am Stuck in an Unhappy Marriage and I Want a Divorce … I Think?!
Are You on a Divorce Guilt Trip?
Were you the one who pulled the trigger on your divorce? If so, my guess is that you have probably asked yourself one (or more) of these questions a thousand times: “Are things really so bad that I need to get divorced?” “Am I giving up too soon?” “How can I do this to my kids?” and “Am I going to … Read more about Are You on a Divorce Guilt Trip?
How NOT to Tell Your Kids You are Getting a Divorce
Telling your spouse you want a divorce is hard. Telling your kids you are getting a divorce is a hundred times harder. As an adult, you know what divorce is going to do to your kids’ lives. You know it is going to change everything. You know it is going to hurt them. You want to protect them from … Read more about How NOT to Tell Your Kids You are Getting a Divorce
Discernment Counseling: A Way to Cope When Your Head Says “Stay” & Your Heart Says “Go”
You know your marriage isn’t perfect, but you don’t want to just let it go. You're worried that divorce will destroy your kids’ lives, but you are also worried that staying married will destroy yours. You don’t want to give up on your marriage, but you are not sure there is anything left to save. … Read more about Discernment Counseling: A Way to Cope When Your Head Says “Stay” & Your Heart Says “Go”
How to Tell Your Children You Are Divorcing
Do you remember where you were on 9/11 when the twin towers in New York came crashing down? IF you are an American, the answer is probably yes. Why? Because that was an extremely emotional event that changed America forever. The same thing is true about your divorce. For your children, it is an … Read more about How to Tell Your Children You Are Divorcing
Should I Get a Divorce?
There is no doubt about it. Deciding whether to divorce is huge, and it can tie you up in knots for months, if not years. You know that marriage isn’t always easy. You know that everyone has their ups and downs. Yet, at the same time, when the "downs" seem to outweigh the "ups," what are you … Read more about Should I Get a Divorce?
Help! I Don’t Want to Get Divorced but My Spouse Does!
The conversation starts something like this: "Hi, Karen. I’m, um, here because, well, um, because my husband wants a divorce. But, I want to save my marriage! My husband says he doesn't love me anymore, but I know he doesn't mean it. He won't go to counseling, but I just feel like, if I can hang … Read more about Help! I Don’t Want to Get Divorced but My Spouse Does!
How Do I Know if I Can Afford to Get Divorced? The Art and Science of How to Make a Budget
When thoughts of divorce first enter your mind, they are usually followed pretty quickly by thoughts of money. After all, getting divorced is expensive. What’s more, its normal to be worried about how you are going to survive after the divorce is over. In order to figure out whether you are going … Read more about How Do I Know if I Can Afford to Get Divorced? The Art and Science of How to Make a Budget