Preparing for divorce seems like the ultimate betrayal. It conjures up images of the greedy businessman who hides all of his money in off-shore accounts right before he divorces his wife. Or, the gold-digger wife who patiently waits until the pre-nup has expired before telling her husband she’s done. Preparing for divorce sounds cold, calculating, […]
Is Staying in a Bad Marriage Killing You?
Staying in a bad marriage can be hell for a lot of reasons. You’re not happy. You feel like you always have to walk on eggshells. Your life is not where you want it to be. What’s worse, you’re not sure how it got to be this bad, or what you can do to change […]
9 Tips for Managing Your Fear of Divorce
Why is it that, even when you know what you should do, you don’t do it? You want to do it. You intend to do it. But at the same time, the very thought of doing the thing you know you should do (like, get a divorce) terrifies you. So you wait, turned into stone […]
Top 10 Best Divorce Blog Posts of 2016
Good divorce advice is like a shelter on high ground in a tsunami. You need it when you need it. When you don’t need it, you’re rarely paying attention to it … which is why you may have missed some of the divorce advice in my best divorce blog posts this past year. But, not […]
I’m Afraid to Get Divorced, But I Don’t Want to Stay Married Either!
What do you do when your marriage is a mess, and you know you should get out, but you’re afraid to get divorced? Should you just stay married? Part of you tells yourself that you should just “buck up” and get divorced. But the thought of having to go to court and deal with all […]
You’re Getting Divorced, NOW Your Spouse Wants to Work on Your Marriage!
Your marriage hasn’t been good for years. Your spouse has been distant. Your sex life is non-existent. You’ve tried everything you can think of to make things better: marriage counseling, couples retreats, “date nights.” Nothing has worked. After agonizing about what to do for what seems like forever, you finally decided you’re getting divorced … […]
I Want a Divorce But My Husband Doesn’t: Am I Stuck?
I want a divorce but my husband doesn’t. I have been unhappy for years. I’ve tried to talk to him. No response. I tried to get him to go to marriage counseling. He said okay, but never went. I told him I was going to a divorce lawyer. He was upset at first, but now […]
I Am Stuck in an Unhappy Marriage and I Want a Divorce … I Think?!
Nothing is worse than being stuck in an unhappy marriage. You don’t know whether you should hang in there and keep trying to make things work, or whether it’s time to give up the ghost and get a divorce. The truth is, you really don’t want a divorce. But you don’t want to live the […]
Are You on a Divorce Guilt Trip?
Were you the one who pulled the trigger on your divorce? If so, my guess is that you have probably asked yourself one (or more) of these questions a thousand times: “Are things really so bad that I need to get divorced?” “Am I giving up too soon?” “How can I do this to my […]
How NOT to Tell Your Kids You are Getting a Divorce
Telling your spouse you want a divorce is hard. Telling your kids you are getting a divorce is a hundred times harder. As an adult, you know what divorce is going to do to your kids’ lives. You know it is going to change everything. You know it is going to hurt them. You want […]