No one in their right mind wants to spend years of their lives, and tens (or hundreds) of thousands of dollars fighting a contested divorce. That’s probably why so many people start their divorce believing that it will be uncontested. They want to believe their divorce will be amicable. A few … Read more about If One of These Things is True, You’re Headed For a Contested Divorce
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If the thought of going to a divorce hearing terrifies you, you’re not alone. Divorce court is terrifying – not only because it’s completely different than anything you’ve ever experienced before, but also because you have so much at stake. Actually, you have everything at stake. If you want to … Read more about 20 Smart Tips to Get Through Your Divorce Hearing with Ease
Most lawyers will tell you not to even try to negotiate a divorce settlement with your spouse. That’s because most lawyers believe that they can negotiate for you better than you can negotiate for yourself. Usually, they can … but not always. That’s because when your lawyer gets involved, your … Read more about 10 Tips for How to Negotiate a Divorce Settlement That Doesn’t Suck
Among those who want to get divorced amicably, collaborative divorce is all the rage. It keeps you out of court, prevents your private affairs from becoming a public spectacle, and is a “kinder and gentler” way to divorce. But, it doesn’t work for everyone. The question is: will the Collaborative … Read more about Pros and Cons of the Collaborative Divorce Process: Is it Right for You?
Very few people are at their best when they are getting a divorce. That’s not surprising. It’s hard to operate at the top of your game when your entire life has just imploded and it feels like you’re walking around with an ice pick in your chest. The irony, of course, is that, at the very time in … Read more about 21 Mistakes NOT to Make When Getting a Divorce
The court room is packed. Lawyers are milling around the front of the room, waiting for the judge. Some ooze confidence. Most are stressed. A few look bored. Outside the low wooden gate that separates the lawyers and the judge from the rest of the world, nervous litigants pack the wooden benches – … Read more about The #1 Myth About Going to Divorce Court
Divorce litigation sucks for a whole lot of reasons. It is expensive, time-consuming, and ugly. But saving time, money, and energy are not the only reasons why you should avoid litigating your divorce. There are other, deeper reasons. What is Divorce Litigation, Anyway? According to Black’s … Read more about The 3 Real Reasons Divorce Litigation Sucks
Have you ever tried to play a game without understanding the rules? If you have, chances are, the game did not go well for you. You probably lost big time. Going through a divorce is similar. In order to survive it (because no one ever really “wins” in divorce), you have to understand how divorce … Read more about How Divorce Works: 10 Rules You Need to Understand
Going to court without a lawyer is rarely a good idea. Getting divorced without a lawyer, where your children, your assets, and your future income are at stake, is a really bad idea. Yet, sometimes, you don't have a choice. You may not have the money to pay a divorce lawyer. Or, your divorce lawyer … Read more about DIY Divorce : What to Do if You Have to Go to Court Without a Lawyer
“If I’m going to mediate my divorce, why do I need a lawyer, too?” It’s a logical question. Many mediators are lawyers. If you have a mediator who is also lawyer, it makes sense to assume that you don’t need to hire two people when one person alone could do the job. Unfortunately, one person … Read more about Understanding the Divorce Mediation Process: Why You Need a Mediator AND a Lawyer
The minute the word “divorce” enters your consciousness, your brain gets flooded with questions you never thought you were going to need to ask: “What do I do?” “Where will I live?” “What will happen to the kids?” “How do I find a lawyer?” All of those are important questions. But they are not … Read more about The 3 Most Important Questions in Divorce
Collaborative divorce is an alternative to fighting to the death with your spouse in court. Using the collaborative process you can resolve your case your way, in private, out of court. The collaborative process will also help you preserve at least a civilized relationship with your ex so … Read more about How to Get a Collaborative Divorce: Don’t Let Your Divorce Lawyer Fool You
Everything happens in its own time, but, when it comes to divorce, it seems like nothing happens on time! The legal system is notorious for being slow. What’s even worse is that, if you don’t understand how the legal system works, you have absolutely no idea what is going on, or what to expect. … Read more about How to Set Your Divorce Timeline
Getting divorced is not what it used to be. In “the old days,” (i.e. 25+ years ago) everybody got divorced pretty much the same way: they hired a lawyer, served their spouse with a summons, went to court, fought for awhile, and eventually settled or went to trial. Today, you have so many more … Read more about How to Choose the Divorce Process That Will Work Best for You
Mediation costs less money, takes less time, and gives you more privacy and control over the outcome of your divorce than contested litigation ever will ... when it works. The problem is, it doesn’t always work. If your spouse is determined to fight to the death, or is purposely hiding money, or … Read more about 10 Tips to Help Make Mediation Work in Your Divorce
The Rhythm and Timing of Divorce The two questions a divorce lawyer hears more than any others are: how much does a divorce cost; and how long does a divorce take? The answer to both questions is the same: it depends. What Affects How Long a Divorce Will Take? According to statistics, a typical … Read more about How Long Does a Divorce Take?
Ever since Gwyneth Paltrow described her split from musician husband Chris Martin as a “conscious uncoupling” rather than a “divorce” experts have been falling all over themselves to talk about conscious uncoupling, and weigh in about whether it’s a good or bad thing. Interestingly, until Gwyneth … Read more about How to Get Divorced like Gwyneth Paltrow: Is Conscious Uncoupling for You?
Do you want to try to settle your divorce case yourself, without racking up thousands of dollars in attorney's fees and going through expensive and exhausting litigation? Contrary to what most people believe, it is possible to settle your divorce case on your own. Even if you already have an … Read more about Negotiation Strategies to Settle Your Divorce Case on Your Own
"The divorce judge is biased against me!" "She won't let me talk." "I just want to tell the divorce judge what really happened." I hear people saying this all the time. I can see that they are frustrated and that they feel like the court system is unfair. The problem, though, isn't necessarily that … Read more about Why Won’t the Divorce Judge Listen to Me? Getting Your Voice Heard in Divorce Court
We've all seen the dramatic scene on TV. The court room is packed. Both parties are standing at separate tables with their attorneys hovering close by, whispering in their ears. Then the judge bangs down the gavel and exclaims: "You're in contempt of court! Sheriff! Take that person away!" It all … Read more about You’re in Contempt of Court! How Not to Get Thrown in Jail by Your Divorce Judge
If you ever wondered why it is important to know what you are doing before you settle your divorce case, the answer is simple: a deal is a deal. Once you've agreed to settle your case, and you've signed all of the paperwork, and the judge has entered the judgment in court, it is extremely difficult … Read more about A Deal is a Deal: Overturning a Divorce Judgment is an Uphill Battle
If you want to get divorced, you have to go to court, right? The answer is yes .... and no. Only a judge has the power to divorce you. So, yes, if you want to get divorced, at some point you (or in some jurisdictions, just your attorney) have to appear in front of the judge. But, just because you … Read more about Is Your Divorce Case Going Nowhere in Court? Try Family Law Arbitration
Just when you think you've heard it all, someone comes up with something new and, well, it kind of rocks your world a little bit. At least, that's how I felt when I read the latest news about the "Divorce Hotel." You check in on Friday married, and, after spending the weekend working with … Read more about Divorce Hotel … Really?!
In the past, there were not a lot of different ways to get through a divorce. Everyone got divorced in pretty much the same way. Everyone went to a lawyer, filed a case in court, fought like crazy, and eventually settled or tried their case. That's no longer true today. Today, there are at … Read more about 4 Ways to Get Through a Divorce