Divorce can be awkward. When your friend tells you that s/he just got divorced, you can never be sure whether you’re supposed to say, “I’m sorry,” or “Congratulations!” Divorce gifts are no better. Divorce gifts can be funny, sensitive, crude or cringe-worthy! Sending a divorce gift to someone … Read more about Top 10 Divorce Gifts for Your Divorcing Friend (or You!)
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Narcissists love to win. Divorce, to them, is a game. That makes divorcing them in any reasonable kind of way extremely challenging. Their expectations are usually unrealistic. They don’t feel a need to compromise. Even if you don’t think of your divorce as a game, at some point you can’t help but … Read more about How You Can “Win” When Divorcing A Narcissist (In 7 Simple Steps)
You know you “should” feel it. Everyone from scientists, to psychologists, to the most popular self-help gurus, is touting the benefits of gratitude. Yet, when you’re in the middle of (or trying to recover from!) a bad divorce, you’re not usually sitting around counting your blessings! Sure, being … Read more about How to Be Grateful Even When Your Life’s a Hot Mess!
Many people see divorce as a game – and one they definitely want to win! Actually, they don’t just want to win. They also want to make sure their spouse loses! To achieve those ends, these players adopt divorce strategies that they believe will catapult them ahead of their spouse. What they don’t … Read more about 7 Divorce Strategies to Avoid (Unless You’re a Masochist!)
Preparing for divorce seems like the ultimate betrayal. It conjures up images of the greedy businessman who hides all of his money in off-shore accounts right before he divorces his wife. Or, the gold-digger wife who patiently waits until the pre-nup has expired before telling her husband she’s … Read more about Preparing for Divorce: The Top 10 Tips You’ve Got to Know
No one in their right mind wants to spend years of their lives, and tens (or hundreds) of thousands of dollars fighting a contested divorce. That’s probably why so many people start their divorce believing that it will be uncontested. They want to believe their divorce will be amicable. A few … Read more about If One of These Things is True, You’re Headed For a Contested Divorce
When your spouse first says, “I want a divorce,” you feel like you just got sucker-punched by the Heavyweight Champion of the World. Time slows down, and everything seems a little surreal. Even if you were the one who decided to pull the trigger on your divorce, you probably still don’t feel much … Read more about How to Deal With Heartbreak: 29 Tips to Get You Through Your Divorce
When you’re trying to get through divorce it’s easy to feel overwhelmed. Divorce adds so many extra things to your “To Do” list that it’s like a second job! What’s even worse is that everything is so uncertain, so unclear, that you’re not sure what you’re supposed to do. Plus, you don’t feel … Read more about The Secret Way to Get Through Divorce Without Being Overwhelmed
When you’re divorcing a narcissist, the rules are different. In a “normal” divorce (if there is such a thing), people get angry and then they get over it. They do stupid things, but then they feel sorry about it. Their divorce craziness is more like temporary insanity than a permanent mental … Read more about Divorcing a Narcissist? 10 Survival Tips You’re Going to Need
Did you ever wish you had a fairy godmother? Someone who could just wave a magic wand and make all the ugliness of your divorce go away? Or, maybe you wish you had a superpower that would let you repair your relationship without a single harsh word? While superpowers and fairy godmothers may be the … Read more about 5 Ways Divorce Counseling Can Save You
It’s awkward. All you did was ask your friend what was up. The last thing you expected to hear was, “I’m getting a divorce.” Now what are you supposed to do?! You want to be supportive, but you also don’t want to intrude. You're scared about saying the wrong thing, but you’re not sure what the right … Read more about 21 Ways to Support a Friend Going through a Divorce
You walk out of the court room with a sinking feeling in the pit of your stomach. Your case just got continued for what seems like the hundredth time. It’s been dragging on for well over a year. Your divorce lawyer has doesn’t seem to care. He told you not to worry. Now you’re wondering whether a … Read more about Can You (Should You) Change Attorneys During Your Divorce?
Good divorce advice is like a shelter on high ground in a tsunami. You need it when you need it. When you don’t need it, you’re rarely paying attention to it … which is why you may have missed some of the divorce advice in my best divorce blog posts this past year. But, not to worry. Here is a … Read more about Top 10 Best Divorce Blog Posts of 2016
You know it to your very core. You are done! Watching your husband stuff himself at Christmas parties is unbearable. Listening to that fake laugh your wife puts on when she is trying to be social makes you cringe. You hate the way your spouse looks, acts, talks, and smells. Even the sound of your … Read more about Christmas Divorce: Surviving the Holidays in an Unhappy Marriage
What do you give someone who is going through a divorce? You don’t want to get too personal, yet you don’t want to seem insensitive either. You want to be helpful, but you don’t want to meddle. So, what is the perfect gift for your divorcing friend? Why, divorce books (or books to take their mind … Read more about 20 Best Divorce Books For Your Divorcing Friend (or You!)
There is no way to sugar-coat it. Surviving divorce and the holidays is rough. You can’t help but remember past holidays when your family was together. Even if those past holidays were less than perfect (and how many of us really have perfect holidays?) they were still family holidays. Now you … Read more about Surviving Divorce and the Holidays: 12 Days of Christmas Tips
What do you do when someone verbally attacks you for no apparent reason? What do you do when someone over reacts to the smallest perceived slight – even when you didn’t mean to offend them? How do you handle the critical, angry, and self-absorbed bad behavior of high conflict people? It’s not … Read more about How to Handle High Conflict People in Divorce and in Life
Have you ever tried to play a game without understanding the rules? If you have, chances are, the game did not go well for you. You probably lost big time. Going through a divorce is similar. In order to survive it (because no one ever really “wins” in divorce), you have to understand how divorce … Read more about How Divorce Works: 10 Rules You Need to Understand
Having “the divorce conversation” sucks. It doesn’t matter whether you are the person who is breaking the news that you want a divorce, or the person who is listening in disbelief as your spouse tells you that your marriage is over. Either way, you are in pain. How to tell your spouse that you want … Read more about How to Tell Your Spouse That You Want a Divorce
You probably never expected that someday you would be scouring the internet looking for divorce support groups. Not only did you believe that your marriage was going to last forever, but joining a divorce support group was just not something you ever thought would be on your radar screen. But, … Read more about Divorce Support Groups: Can They Make Your Divorce Easier?
Divorce sucks for a whole lot of reasons, not the least of which is that you have no idea what to expect. So much of what happens in divorce seems unpredictable and unfair. Yet, as every divorce professional knows, even though every divorce is different, there are definite stages of divorce. There … Read more about How Understanding the Stages of Divorce Can Make Your Divorce Easier
Divorce statistics are amazing. If you look hard enough you can find statistics that supposedly show that you are more likely to divorce if you have girls rather than boys, if only you, but not your spouse, smokes, or if either you or your spouse gains 20% more than your body weight after … Read more about Divorce Facts: Can Divorce Statistics Help You Save Your Marriage?
“Going through a divorce is so much fun! It’s so uplifting and inspirational.” ... said NO ONE. Ever. Divorce is a roller coaster ride of negative emotions. Even going through the most amicable divorce hurts. That’s why learning how to cope with divorce is so important. Unfortunately, unless you … Read more about 10 Pro Tips for How To Cope With Divorce
I want a divorce but my husband doesn’t. I have been unhappy for years. I’ve tried to talk to him. No response. I tried to get him to go to marriage counseling. He said okay, but never went. I told him I was going to a divorce lawyer. He was upset at first, but now acts like nothing has changed. I … Read more about I Want a Divorce But My Husband Doesn’t: Am I Stuck?