No one wants to get stuck in a divorce that drags on for years. Yet, many divorces do exactly that. So, why does divorce take so long if everyone wants it to be over asap? There are many reasons. But most of those reasons fall into five general categories: The 5 Main Reasons Divorce Takes So … Read more about Why Does Divorce Take So Long?
Coping With Divorce
Divorce sucks. Losing half the time with your kids, as well as half of everything you own, sucks. Losing your home, a lot of your friends, and often a big chunk of your income, sucks. What sucks the most, though, is losing your very identity. You used to be a married person. You used to … Read more about Divorce Sucks! Here’s How You Can Make It Less Awful
You know it to your very core. You are done! Watching your husband stuff himself at Christmas parties is unbearable. Listening to that fake laugh your wife puts on when she is trying to be social makes you cringe. You hate the way your spouse looks, acts, talks, and smells. Even the sound of your … Read more about Christmas Divorce: Surviving the Holidays in an Unhappy Marriage
There is no way to sugar-coat it. Surviving divorce during the holidays is rough. You can’t help but remember past holidays when your family was together. Even if those past holidays were less than perfect (and how many of us really have perfect holidays?) they were still family holidays. Now … Read more about 12 Tips for Surviving Divorce During the Holidays When You Have Kids
You know you “should” feel it. Everyone from scientists, to psychologists, to the most popular self-help gurus, touts the benefits of practicing gratitude. Yet, when you’re in the middle of (or trying to recover from!) a bad divorce, you’re not usually sitting around counting your blessings! Sure, … Read more about How to Be Grateful Even When You’re Divorcing!
According to the Holmes Rahe Stress Inventory, divorce is the second most stressful life event that can happen to you. Of course, if you’re going through a divorce, you don’t need Drs. Holmes or Rahe to tell you how stressed out you feel. The truth is, you’re much more interested in how to deal with … Read more about Divorce Stressing You Out? 13 Practical Tips for How to Deal with Stress
It usually starts out innocently enough. Your spouse has to get an important project done and needs help from a co-worker. It’s only natural that they would talk about their personal lives when they are spending so much time together. Or maybe your spouse is scrolling through social media one day … Read more about What to Do If You Suspect Your Spouse is Having an Emotional Affair
You probably never expected that someday you would be scouring the internet looking for divorce support groups. Not only did you believe that your marriage was going to last forever, but joining a divorce support group was just not something you ever thought would be on your radar screen. But, … Read more about The Ultimate List of Divorce Support Groups and Why You Need One!
Coping with divorce – and doing it at least reasonably well – takes the patience of a saint and the inner strength of an advanced Zen master. (Neither of whom, coincidentally, usually get married!) Yet, of all the skills you need to successfully navigate through divorce, none is more critical than … Read more about Coping With Divorce: Are Your Emotional Triggers Sabotaging You?
Narcissists love to win. Divorce, to them, is a game. That makes divorcing them in any reasonable kind of way extremely challenging. Their expectations are usually unrealistic. They don’t feel a need to compromise. Even if you don’t think of your divorce as a game, at some point you can’t help but … Read more about 10 Tips for How You Can “Win” When Divorcing A Narcissist
Many people see divorce as a game – and one they definitely want to win! Actually, they don’t just want to win. They also want to make sure their spouse loses! To achieve those ends, these players adopt divorce strategies that they believe will catapult them ahead of their spouse. What they don’t … Read more about 7 Divorce Strategies to Avoid (Unless You’re a Masochist!)
When your spouse first says, “I want a divorce,” you feel like you just got sucker-punched by the Heavyweight Champion of the World. Time slows down, and everything seems a little surreal. Even if you were the one who decided to pull the trigger on your divorce, you probably still don’t feel much … Read more about How to Deal With Heartbreak [29 Tips to Get You Through the Pain]
When you’re trying to get through divorce it’s easy to feel overwhelmed. Divorce adds so many extra things to your “To Do” list that it’s like a second job! What’s even worse is that everything is so uncertain, so unclear, that you’re not sure what you’re supposed to do. Plus, you don’t feel … Read more about The Secret Way to Get Through Divorce Without Being Overwhelmed
When you’re divorcing a narcissist, the rules are different. In a “normal” divorce (if there is such a thing), people get angry and then they get over it. They do stupid things, but then they feel sorry about it. Their divorce craziness is more like temporary insanity than a permanent mental … Read more about Divorcing a Narcissist? 10 Survival Tips You’re Going to Need
Did you ever wish you had a fairy godmother? Someone who could just wave a magic wand and make all the ugliness of your divorce go away? Or, maybe you wish you had a superpower that would let you repair your relationship without a single harsh word? While superpowers and fairy godmothers may be the … Read more about 5 Ways Divorce Counseling Can Save You
What do you do when someone verbally attacks you for no apparent reason? What do you do when someone over reacts to the smallest perceived slight – even when you didn’t mean to offend them? How do you handle the critical, angry, and self-absorbed bad behavior of high conflict people? It’s not … Read more about How to Handle High Conflict People in Divorce and in Life
Divorce sucks for a whole lot of reasons, not the least of which is that you have no idea what to expect. So much of what happens in divorce seems unpredictable and unfair. Yet, as every divorce professional knows, even though every divorce is different, there are definite stages of divorce. There … Read more about How Understanding the Stages of Divorce Can Make Your Divorce Easier
“Going through a divorce is so much fun! It’s so uplifting and inspirational.” ... said NO ONE. Ever. Divorce is a roller coaster ride of negative emotions. Even going through the most amicable divorce hurts. That’s why learning how to cope with divorce is so important. Unfortunately, unless you … Read more about 10 Pro Tips for How To Cope With Divorce
I want a divorce but my husband doesn’t. I have been unhappy for years. I’ve tried to talk to him. No response. I tried to get him to go to marriage counseling. He said okay, but never went. I told him I was going to a divorce lawyer. He was upset at first, but now acts like nothing has changed. I … Read more about I Want a Divorce But My Husband Doesn’t: Am I Stuck?
We all know that we are supposed to take the high road in life. We have heard it from our parents, teachers, spiritual leaders, and even that little voice in our head that always has an opinion about what we “should” do. But what exactly does it mean to take the high road in divorce? Here are a few … Read more about 10 Ways to Take the High Road In Divorce – And the Best Reason to Do It
Were you the one who pulled the trigger on your divorce? If so, my guess is that you have probably asked yourself one (or more) of these questions a thousand times: “Are things really so bad that I need to get divorced?” “Am I giving up too soon?” “How can I do this to my kids?” and “Am I going to … Read more about Are You on a Divorce Guilt Trip?
No one in their right mind would ever knowingly give away their power, their energy, or their ability to control their own future at the one time in life when they need it the most - when they are getting a divorce. Yet, I see people doing it every day. Here are 7 surprising ways you may be giving … Read more about 7 Surprising Ways You Are Giving Away Your Power in Divorce
How do you think divorce – and specifically YOUR divorce if you are in the middle of one – should go? Should everything be amicable? Should you be able to get along for the sake of the kids? Or, do you think it is more likely that you and your spouse will be battling like Roman gladiators over … Read more about The Secret Key to Minimizing Divorce Drama: Managing Divorce Expectations!
Divorce and yoga. At first blush they seem so different. Yoga and divorce. One is so Zen. The other is about as “un-Zen” as you could possibly get. Yet, as I was trying to balance in Eagle pose yesterday, standing on one leg with my arms and legs wrapped around each other like pretzels and the sweat … Read more about Divorce and Yoga: 10 Surprising Insights For a Zen Divorce