The court room is packed. Lawyers are milling around the front of the room, waiting for the judge. Some ooze confidence. Most are stressed. A few look bored. Outside the low wooden gate that separates the lawyers and the judge from the rest of the world, nervous litigants pack the wooden benches – the “hard […]
The 3 Real Reasons Divorce Litigation Sucks
Divorce litigation sucks for a whole lot of reasons. It is expensive, time-consuming, and ugly. But saving time, money, and energy are not the only reasons why you should avoid litigating your divorce. There are other, deeper reasons. What is Divorce Litigation, Anyway? According to Black’s Law Dictionary, litigation is “a contest in a court […]
No Fault Divorce: Should Divorce Be Harder to Get?
No fault divorce is the norm in every state in the United States. But that doesn’t mean that everyone thinks that it is a good idea. Conservatives and religious groups in particular have been pushing divorce reform for years. They answer the question “Should divorce be harder to get?” with a resounding YES! On the other […]
15 Custody Battle Tips When Fighting is Your Only Option
Engaging in a custody battle is rarely worth the pain and the price you will pay. It will drain your bank account and devastate your kids. It is arguably the most emotionally destructive war you can wage in divorce court. But, sometimes you have no choice. We have all read the stories of the distraught […]
DIY Divorce : What to Do if You Have to Go to Court Without a Lawyer
Going to court without a lawyer is rarely a good idea. Getting divorced without a lawyer, where your children, your assets, and your future income are at stake, is a really bad idea. Yet, sometimes, you don’t have a choice. You may not have the money to pay a divorce lawyer. Or, your divorce lawyer may have […]
Dressing for Success: What to Wear to Court
Going to court is stressful. You want to make a good impression. You want the judge to listen to you. (Ok, let’s be honest. You want to win.) Knowing what to wear to court, and dressing appropriately, is an important first step both in getting your voice heard, and persuading the judge to rule in […]
I Don’t Understand Why Divorce is so Unfair!
If Lying, Cheating and Bad-Mouthing Don’t Matter, What Does? I got an email the other day that really made me think. Essentially, it said, “My spouse has lied to me, cheated on me, and bad-mouthed me to the kids. Yet every lawyer I’ve talked to said the judge doesn’t care. I still have to give […]
The 10 Biggest Divorce Myths
What if everything you believed about divorce turned out not to be true? While chances are that some of the “divorce facts” that you believe actually are true, unless you are a divorce professional and you understand how the divorce system really works, chances also are that a lot of the things you believe about divorce […]
Coping With Divorce: The Secret “Double Whammy” No One Tells You About
Its no secret that divorce is traumatic. When you are going through a divorce you lose your (presumably) most intimate relationship, threaten your financial stability, and rock your children’s world. Your life, your home, your identity – everything is turned upside down. But that’s only part of the trauma. The second part (the “double whammy”) […]
You’re in Contempt of Court! How Not to Get Thrown in Jail by Your Divorce Judge
We’ve all seen the dramatic scene on TV. The court room is packed. Both parties are standing at separate tables with their attorneys hovering close by, whispering in their ears. Then the judge bangs down the gavel and exclaims: “You’re in contempt of court! Sheriff! Take that person away!” It all makes for great TV […]