By the time you’re done with your divorce, you usually want to be done with your ex, too. Unfortunately, if you have kids together, talking to your ex is not optional. You’re going to have to talk to your ex about schedules, money, parenting issues, and more. What’s more, you’re going to have to … Read more about 10 Tips for How to Talk to Your Ex About the Kids (Without Losing it!)
Children and Divorce
If you are a parent and you are facing divorce, one of the first things you probably thought about was, “What is going to happen with the kids?” You have visions of having to spend weekends and holidays without them. You worry about what will happen to the kids when they are not with you. Most of … Read more about How to Make a Co-Parenting Schedule That Works!
Engaging in a custody battle is rarely worth the pain and the price you will pay. It will drain your bank account and devastate your kids. It is arguably the most emotionally destructive war you can wage in divorce court. But, sometimes you have no choice. We have all read the stories of the … Read more about 15 Custody Battle Tips When Fighting is Your Only Option
You’re getting divorced. You have kids. You know that you are going to need to make some sort of a parenting plan with your soon-to-be-ex. But you don’t have the faintest idea how to go about doing it. You have no idea what is supposed to go into a parenting plan, and what is not. Of course … Read more about How to Make a Parenting Plan
Anyone who thinks co parenting is easy has probably never tried it themselves! Even if you and your ex did your best to “consciously uncouple,” you are still likely to push each other’s buttons from time to time after your divorce. If your divorce was more like World War III than a civilized split, … Read more about 10 Tips for Effective Co Parenting
Have you ever stopped to wonder why we use the same word – “custody” – to describe the right to care for our children and the imprisonment of criminals? It seems a little strange once you actually start to think about it. Maybe that is why the Illinois legislature just eliminated “custody” in all … Read more about Is Custody Dead? Understanding the New Illinois Divorce Law
Telling your spouse you want a divorce is hard. Telling your kids you are getting a divorce is a hundred times harder. As an adult, you know what divorce is going to do to your kids’ lives. You know it is going to change everything. You know it is going to hurt them. You want to protect them from … Read more about How NOT to Tell Your Kids You are Getting a Divorce
You can’t help it. It’s not that you are wishing evil upon your spouse while you are going through a divorce (ok, maybe you are!), but, you can’t help thinking, every now and then: what would happen if my spouse just died? Normally, of course, those passing thoughts just, well, pass. Somehow you and … Read more about Child Support After Death: 5 Tips for Providing for the Kids If Your Ex Dies
Do you remember where you were on 9/11 when the twin towers in New York came crashing down? IF you are an American, the answer is probably yes. Why? Because that was an extremely emotional event that changed America forever. The same thing is true about your divorce. For your children, it is an … Read more about How to Tell Your Children You Are Divorcing
Most divorcing couples embroiled in a custody battle think that the way they can win custody is by proving that their spouse is a terrible parent. They think that if they can persuade their kids to want to live with them, the judge will award them custody. They think that if they can show that their … Read more about How to Lose Your Custody Battle
If you have been fighting in court with your ex for years, it is not surprising if you feel like you never want to see him or her again! You are probably exhausted, emotionally drained, and financially wrecked! You probably feel like you (and your kids) would be so much better off if your ex would … Read more about Can I Keep My Ex Away From My Kids?
We have all had them. You know ... the conversations that you rehearse over and over in your head 1000 times before you actually face the person you need to talk with. The conversations that you dread so much that you would rather clean your entire basement, and your garage, rather than have them? … Read more about 5 Tips for Making Difficult Conversations With Your Ex Easier
We have all read the studies. Research about the effects of divorce on children doesn’t paint a pretty picture. Studies have allegedly shown that kids whose parents divorce are more likely to smoke, drop out of school, and commit crime than kids from intact families. It has been claimed that … Read more about The Surprising Truth About the Effects of Divorce on Children
They are caught in the perfect storm. At the same time that the baby boomers are experiencing the highest divorce rate in the country, their children – the 20 and 30 year olds with no job who have been knick-named “the boomerang generation” – are returning home to live with “mom and dad” in record … Read more about What Happens to the Boomerang Generation When Their Parents Divorce?
I’ve seen it happen a number of times now. Clients with adult children come into my office seeking representation in a divorce. Maybe the divorce was their idea; maybe it wasn’t. No matter the circumstances that led them into divorce, most of them believe the biggest myth about the effect of … Read more about The Biggest Myth About the Effect of Divorce on Adult Children
Let's start with a basic truth: very few people enjoy paying their former spouse money after a divorce. It doesn't matter that they love their kids and that the money is for child support. No one likes paying their "ex." But it's equally true that a lot of people who are trying to raise kids as a … Read more about Five Common Myths About Child Support That Just Aren’t True
Yogis know it. Philosophers know it. Parents know it: What doesn't bend, breaks. In other words, flexibility – in your body, in your life, and in parenting – is key. But even though most parents understand that to raise happy, healthy, kids they need to be flexible, it is not uncommon for divorcing … Read more about Maintaining Flexibility in Your Parenting Plan: Don’t Be a “Parenting Plan Nazi”
Tom Cruise's recent admission that his ex–wife Katie Holmes filed for divorce to protect their daughter Suri from Scientology highlights what can happen when divorce and religion mix and go awry. While religion may not be a motivating factor in most people's divorce, it can be an important part of a … Read more about Divorce and Religion: How Do Parents of Different Religions Deal if They Divorce?
Politicians and lawyers both have a reputation for never giving a straight answer to a simple question. So, when asked, "Do divorced parents have to pay for their children's college expenses?" like any good lawyer, the answer I usually give is, "it depends." The first, and probably most … Read more about Do Divorced Parents Have to Pay for their Children’s College Expenses?
When I was in law school, the professors taught us that: "for every wrong there is a remedy." Unfortunately, like so many other things we've all learned in school, that's just not true. There are some problems the law can't solve. Actually, there are problems the law was never designed to solve: … Read more about Collateral Damage: Adult Children of Divorce
Many divorce judgments contain what is known as a "morality clause." While there are many variations of that clause, a morality clause is essentially a provision in a divorce decree, or court order, that says that neither parent can have a romantic partner spend the night while the children are … Read more about Be Careful of What You Agree to: Understanding the Morality Clause in Your Divorce