Divorce can be awkward. When your friend tells you that s/he just got divorced, you can never be sure whether you’re supposed to say, “I’m sorry,” or “Congratulations!” Divorce gifts are no better.
Divorce gifts can be funny, sensitive, crude or cringe-worthy!
Sending a divorce gift to someone you know can either be a heartwarming gesture, or a huge social gaffe!
Yet, divorce is definitely a noteworthy life event! If someone you know and love just got divorced, you often can’t help but feel you need to DO something. You need to commemorate the occasion somehow.
But how?
Should You Send a Divorce Gift?
The first question you need to ask yourself when you’re trying to “do the right thing” for a divorcing friend is “Should I Send a Divorce Gift?” The answer depends on two things:
Your relationship with the divorcing person.
How that person feels about his/her divorce.
In general, the better you know a person, the more acceptable it will be to send a divorce gift. At the same time, the nature of your relationship to that person matters a lot.
Sending a divorce gift to your best friend can be touching. Sending a divorce gift to your parents is weird. (… unless your biological parent was re-married to a step-parent you hated!)
Similarly, before you send anything, you have to know whether the divorcing person is happy or sad about his/her divorce. Sending a cake topper that says “Free at Last!” to your cousin who is still devastated because her husband of twenty years just left her for the babysitter is probably not a good move.
Another thing to consider when sending a divorce gift is the nature of the gift itself. Flowers and chocolate are usually okay no matter what the circumstances. A wineglass that says, “Adios Motherf****r” probably is not.
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Top 10 Divorce Gifts
Once you’ve decided to send a divorce gift, of course, you then have to decide what to send. Here are some of the most interesting divorce gifts on the market today.
1. Divorce T-Shirts.
These T-shirts are for those who are happy about their divorce, and willing to wear to share their joy in public.
Women’s Divorce T-Shirt. This “Problem Solved” Divorce T-shirt makes a statement, but it is definitely not “p.c.”
Unisex Divorce T-Shirt. “You Live, You Learn and You Upgrade” is a more polite way to say you’re divorced.
Unisex Divorce T-Shirt. “I never dreamed one day I’d be a SEXY DIVORCEE, but here I am KILLING IT.” A T-shirt that focuses on you!
2. Divorce Socks.
For those who may not be ready to wear their divorce quite so openly, divorce socks can present a more discreet alternative. They are a little bit wild, but they still provide a little humor in a less public way.
3. Divorce Mugs.
For those who prefer not to flaunt their divorce in public, a divorce coffee mug can still make a statement.
Divorce Definition Mug. This divorce mug is simple and on point.
It’s Better to Have Loved & Lost Mug. This divorce coffee mug has a little bit stronger brew.
Therapist Mug. This coffee mug works well for anyone who’s divorced, as well as for most parents of adult children.
“I’m Outta Here” Mug. This coffee mug works for divorce AND retirement. To get the female version, CLICK HERE.
4. Divorce Wine Glasses.
For those who prefer something a little stronger than coffee, there’s nothing better than an artisan divorce wine glass.
5. Divorce Wine.
To fill your divorce wine glass, of course, you need a little divorce wine!
6. Home and Office Divorce Decor.
Tired of listening to your ex prattle on? This button can interrupt the conversation and let your ex know what you really think!
If you need something a little stronger and more direct, you may need a slightly different button. If you want to call b******t on your ex but can’t say that to his/her face, this button can do it for you in 10 different voices!
(NOTE: This is appropriate for the newly divorced, as well as those who are still wading their way through the divorce process.)
Divorce Diploma. For those who want to prove they have graduated from “divorce university,” this nicely framed plaque is the perfect gift.
For some divorced people, there’s no better way to celebrate the season than with a divorce Christmas ornament. These ornaments are all designed to add a little holiday cheer to your Christmas tree!
9. Divorce Sun Glasses.
For those who need a replacement for their rose-colored glasses, these “Just Divorced” shades can be the perfect gift.
10. Divorce Books.
For those who want to take a more cerebral approach to the end of their marriage, these divorce recovery books make fabulous divorce gifts.
It’s OK That You’re Not OK. If your friend is struggling to put divorce behind him/her, this book can help.
I Hate My Ex-Husband Coloring Book. This book may be crude, but coloring is supposed to be an awesome stress-reliever!
The New Old Me. This divorce recovery book is perfect for the divorced person whose trying to build a whole new life.
TIP:Divorce books make the perfect gift for those who are still in the throes of their divorce and those who are trying to recover. Here is a list of some of theBEST DIVORCE BOOKS you can find.
Divorce Gifts for Your Divorcing Friend
Divorce gifts are definitely not for everyone. You obviously need to be sensitive before sending one. But, if you’re looking for a way to lighten your divorcing friend’s day, there’s no better way to do it than with a thoughtful (or funny!) gift!
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NOTE: Most of the links to the gifts on this page are affiliate links. If you buy these books using these links, I will get a small commission from Amazon. You are welcome to buy these books from anywhere you like. The Amazon links are just here for your convenience.
Karen Covy is a Divorce Coach, Lawyer, Mediator, Author, and Speaker. She coaches high net worth professionals and successful business owners to make hard decisions about their marriage with confidence, and to navigate divorce with dignity. She speaks and writes about decision-making, divorce, and living life on your terms. To connect with Karen and discover how she can help you, CLICK HERE.
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Absolutely love some of these and yes for the first time in what feels like forever I LAUGHED out loud!
Perfect!
This article helps me allow myself to be light-hearted about my divorce. It doesn’t have to be terrible!
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