Engaging in a custody battle is rarely worth the pain and the price you will pay. It will drain your bank account and devastate your kids. It is arguably the most emotionally destructive war you can wage in divorce court. But, sometimes you have no choice. We have all read the stories of the … Read more about 15 Custody Battle Tips When Fighting is Your Only Option
Karen’s Divorce Blog: Practical Information to Get You Through Your Divorce
How to Tell Your Spouse That You Want a Divorce
Having “the divorce conversation” sucks. It doesn’t matter whether you are the person who is breaking the news that you want a divorce, or the person who is listening in disbelief as your spouse tells you that your marriage is over. Either way, you are in pain. How to tell your spouse that you want … Read more about How to Tell Your Spouse That You Want a Divorce
I’m Afraid to Get Divorced, But I Don’t Want to Stay Married Either!
What do you do when your marriage is a mess, and you know you should get out, but you’re afraid to get divorced? Should you just stay married? Part of you tells yourself that you should just “buck up” and get divorced. But the thought of having to go to court and deal with all that conflict … Read more about I’m Afraid to Get Divorced, But I Don’t Want to Stay Married Either!
Help! My Spouse Cheated! 10 Steps for Dealing with Infidelity
The day you discover that your spouse cheated is like the day you watched airplanes fly into the twin towers. It is your own, personal 9/11. From that day on, nothing is the same. Yet, as painful as it is, your spouse’s cheating does not necessarily mean your marriage is over. Your spouse’s behavior … Read more about Help! My Spouse Cheated! 10 Steps for Dealing with Infidelity
50 Shades of Gray Divorce
Gray divorce: “the demographic trend of an increasing divorce rate for older ("grey-haired") couples in long-lasting marriages.” You are over 50 – maybe over 60. Presumably you are old enough to know that people “your age” are not supposed to get divorced. Yet, here you are: stuck in a … Read more about 50 Shades of Gray Divorce
Dating During Divorce: 7 Reasons NOT to Go There!
Dating during divorce. It’s so tempting! With all the hell you are going through with your spouse, you’re probably feeling stressed out, unloved, and definitely unappreciated. What better to take your mind off your misery, and boost your flagging self esteem, than a few dates with someone who … Read more about Dating During Divorce: 7 Reasons NOT to Go There!
27 Divorce Tips for a Better Divorce
Sometimes, the smallest things can make the biggest difference. When you are going through a divorce, getting a few good divorce tips can save you a ton of time and money, not to mention untold amounts of grief and aggravation. The problem is, the best divorce tips are likely to come from divorce … Read more about 27 Divorce Tips for a Better Divorce
You’re Getting Divorced, NOW Your Spouse Wants to Work on Your Marriage!
Your marriage hasn’t been good for years. Your spouse has been distant. What's worse, your sex life is non-existent. You’ve tried everything you can think of to make things better: marriage counseling, couples retreats, “date nights.” Nothing has worked. After agonizing about what to do for what … Read more about You’re Getting Divorced, NOW Your Spouse Wants to Work on Your Marriage!
How Understanding the Stages of Divorce Can Make Your Divorce Easier
Divorce sucks for a whole lot of reasons, not the least of which is that you have no idea what to expect. So much of what happens in divorce seems unpredictable and unfair. Yet, as every divorce professional knows, even though every divorce is different, there are definite stages of divorce. There … Read more about How Understanding the Stages of Divorce Can Make Your Divorce Easier
10 Pro Tips for How To Cope With Divorce
“Going through a divorce is so much fun! It’s so uplifting and inspirational.” ... said NO ONE. Ever. Divorce is a roller coaster ride of negative emotions. Even going through the most amicable divorce hurts. That’s why learning how to cope with divorce is so important. Unfortunately, unless you … Read more about 10 Pro Tips for How To Cope With Divorce
How to Get a Divorce Without Breaking the Bank
Let’s face it. Divorce is expensive. Not only do you have to pay court costs and legal fees, but you are also likely to be racking up therapy bills too. Add that to the cost of establishing a second household, plus all of the hidden costs of divorce (moving, selling your home, taxes, separate health … Read more about How to Get a Divorce Without Breaking the Bank
I Want a Divorce But My Husband Doesn’t: Am I Stuck?
I want a divorce but my husband doesn’t. I have been unhappy for years. I’ve tried to talk to him. No response. I tried to get him to go to marriage counseling. He said okay, but never went. I told him I was going to a divorce lawyer. He was upset at first, but now acts like nothing has changed. I … Read more about I Want a Divorce But My Husband Doesn’t: Am I Stuck?
The Worst Divorce Advice Your Family Ever Gave You
Your family and friends mean well. They only want what is best for you. So, when your marriage falls apart, they can’t help but give you what they honestly believe is the perfect divorce advice. Only ... it’s not. As a matter of fact, all too often, the advice you get from your family and friends is … Read more about The Worst Divorce Advice Your Family Ever Gave You
Tips for Surviving a Divorce After 50
How do you feel when you’ve crossed the mid-line of life and find yourself facing something you never dreamed you would face at this age: divorce? If you have been unhappy in your marriage for years, and can’t imagine facing your spouse 24/7 when you retire, you may feel strangely excited at the … Read more about Tips for Surviving a Divorce After 50
I Am Stuck in an Unhappy Marriage and I Want a Divorce … I Think?!
Nothing is worse than being stuck in an unhappy marriage. You don't know whether you should hang in there and keep trying to make things work, or whether it’s time to give up the ghost and get a divorce. The truth is, you really don’t want a divorce. But you don’t want to live the way you are … Read more about I Am Stuck in an Unhappy Marriage and I Want a Divorce … I Think?!
DIY Divorce : What to Do if You Have to Go to Court Without a Lawyer
Going to court without a lawyer is rarely a good idea. Getting divorced without a lawyer, where your children, your assets, and your future income are at stake, is a really bad idea. Yet, sometimes, you don't have a choice. You may not have the money to pay a divorce lawyer. Or, your divorce lawyer … Read more about DIY Divorce : What to Do if You Have to Go to Court Without a Lawyer
Mediating Your Divorce? Here’s Why You Need a Mediator AND a Lawyer
“If I’m going to mediate my divorce, why do I need a lawyer, too?” It’s a logical question. Many mediators are lawyers. If you have a mediator who is also lawyer, it's natural to assume that you don’t need to hire a lawyer AND a mediator. I mean, why hire two people when one person alone could do … Read more about Mediating Your Divorce? Here’s Why You Need a Mediator AND a Lawyer
50+ Pieces of Divorce Advice Your Lawyer May Not Have Told You (But Should Have!)
“If you had to give divorce advice to your best friend, what would you say?” The question intrigued me. As someone who has been a divorce lawyer for decades, I’ve given my share of divorce advice. But what was my best stuff? If my brother, or my best friend, was getting divorced, what would I … Read more about 50+ Pieces of Divorce Advice Your Lawyer May Not Have Told You (But Should Have!)
The 3 Most Important Questions in Divorce
The minute the word “divorce” enters your consciousness, your brain gets flooded with questions: “What do I do now?” “How am I going to survive?” “What will happen to the kids?” “Will I spend the rest of my life alone?” All of those questions are important to ask yourself at some point. But … Read more about The 3 Most Important Questions in Divorce
How to Get a Collaborative Divorce: Don’t Let Your Divorce Lawyer Fool You
Collaborative divorce is an alternative to fighting to the death with your spouse in court. Using the collaborative process you can resolve your case your way, in private, out of court. The collaborative process will also help you preserve at least a civilized relationship with your ex so … Read more about How to Get a Collaborative Divorce: Don’t Let Your Divorce Lawyer Fool You
How to Decide Who Gets the House in a Divorce
You are facing divorce and the only two assets you and your spouse have got that are worth anything are your house and your retirement accounts. You could keep the house and give your spouse the retirement accounts, or vice versa. But you are not sure which is best. How do you decide who gets the … Read more about How to Decide Who Gets the House in a Divorce
10 Tips for Effective Co Parenting
Anyone who thinks co parenting is easy has probably never tried it themselves! Even if you and your ex did your best to “consciously uncouple,” you are still likely to push each other’s buttons from time to time after your divorce. If your divorce was more like World War III than a civilized split, … Read more about 10 Tips for Effective Co Parenting
Divorce and Money: 8 Tips to Keep Your Ex From Hurting You Financially in Divorce
One of the scariest parts of getting divorced is wondering whether your ex is going to take you to the cleaners. Sadly, when it comes to divorce and money, there are no guarantees. We all know people who have been left financially devastated by an ex who seemed to be hell-bent on destroying them. … Read more about Divorce and Money: 8 Tips to Keep Your Ex From Hurting You Financially in Divorce
A Different View: 8 Reasons to be Thankful for Your Divorce
It seems like a crazy question: Are you thankful for your divorce? Who would ever be thankful that their life was turned upside down, their dreams dashed to pieces, and their family changed forever? Why would anyone be thankful for the pain, the misery, the disruption, or the financial … Read more about A Different View: 8 Reasons to be Thankful for Your Divorce