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How to Prepare for Divorce

Knowing how to prepare for divorce, and actually being prepared, can save you time, money, and a lot of heartache in your divorce.

“Preparing for divorce” may sound cold-hearted. But not being prepared, muddling through your divorce, and making a mess of your life in the process, is way worse.

Maybe your spouse has decided to divorce you. Maybe you have decided to divorce your spouse. Either way, once divorce has entered your world, everything changes. Understanding how to prepare for divorce, regardless of whether getting divorced was your idea or not, is essential to getting through your divorce process reasonably well.

That having been said, the way you prepare for divorce will vary depending upon whether getting divorced was your idea or not. Why? The answer lies in a single word: emotions.

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The Emotional Stages of Divorce

Getting divorced is a process. A huge part of that process involves dealing with your emotions.  If you’re the one who has decided to get a divorce, you’ve already started to process your emotions. If it’s your spouse who wants a divorce, you may still be in shock. Not only haven’t you had time to process your emotions, but you also may not even feel them right now. This article can help.

How Understanding the Emotional Stages of Divorce Can Make Your Divorce Easier. If you want to divorce amicably, you must understand where both you and your spouse are at in the emotional stages of divorce. This article explains the various stages of divorce and knowing where you are matters so much.

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How to Prepare for Divorce

Regardless of where you’re at emotionally, eventually you need to start preparing for your divorce. When you do, these articles will help.

Preparing for Divorce: The 10 Tips You’ve Got to Know. Preparing for divorce sounds cold. But, not preparing can cost you. Here are the most important things you need to do if you may be facing divorce.

How to Prepare for Divorce No Matter When it Happens. No one wants to prepare for divorce. But if divorce is in your future, being prepared is absolutely critical. Here’s what you need to know.

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Understanding Divorce: Know What You’re Facing Makes All the Difference

A critical component in preparing for divorce is understanding how the divorce process works. Divorce doesn’t work the way most people think that it does. Here are some articles that will help you understand exactly what you are facing when you are facing divorce.

How Divorce Works: 10 Rules You Need to Understand. If you don’t understand how divorce works, your divorce is not likely to go well. Here are 10 divorce rules that apply no matter who you are or where you live. Understanding these rules before your divorce will help you get through your divorce in a much less stressful way.

21 Mistakes NOT to Make When Getting a Divorce. Getting a divorce is rough, and it’s easy to make mistakes that will follow you for years. These 21 common divorce mistakes can make your divorce more difficult, expensive and time-consuming than it needs to be.

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Practical Divorce Advice You’re Going to Need

Properly preparing for divorce means getting the RIGHT divorce advice from the beginning. Here are a few articles that can help point you in the right direction.

50 Pieces of Divorce Advice Your Lawyer May Not Have Told You (But Should Have!) Divorce lawyers don’t always tell you everything. Here is the best divorce advice your lawyer never told you (but should have!).

The Worst Divorce Advice Your Family Ever Gave You. When you are getting divorced, everyone wants to tell you what to do. Here is some of the worst divorce advice friends and family give.

How to Tell Your Spouse That You Want a Divorce. Is there ever a good way to have a bad conversation? Probably not. Telling your spouse that you want a divorce is likely to be rough no matter how you do it. Even still, some ways of breaking the news are better than others. Here are 12 tips for how to tell your spouse that you want a divorce in a better way.

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Understanding Your Divorce Process Options

There are many ways to get divorced today.  Sadly, not every divorce lawyer will tell you about all of your options.  Here are some articles that will help you understand how divorce mediation, divorce litigation and collaborative divorce work.

Divorce Mediation. Wondering what mediation is, and whether it will work for you? This article explains what divorce mediation is, and how it works.

Understanding the Divorce Mediation Process: Why You Need a Mediator AND a Lawyer. Divorce is expensive, so it’s no wonder that people think they can cut costs by just using a mediator instead of a lawyer. Here is why that’s a bad idea.

Collaborative Divorce. Collaborative divorce is the newest way to get divorced. Like mediation, it keeps you out of court. But, collaborative divorce is more than just “divorcing amicably.”  Here’s what collaborative divorce is, and how it works.

How to Get a Collaborative Divorce: Don’t Let Your Divorce Lawyer Fool You. Collaborative divorce can keep you out of court and help you settle amicably. How to get a collaborative divorce? That depends on your divorce lawyer.

Divorce Litigation. Litigation is the traditional way to get divorced. It’s usually not the best way, but sometimes, litigation is your only choice. Here’s what “going to court” means, and how it works.

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Divorce Advice for Special Problems

Divorcing a Narcissist? 10 Survival Tips You’re Going to Need. Divorcing a narcissist is rougher than divorcing anyone else. The normal rules don’t apply to them. Here’s what you need if you want to divorce a narcissist and survive.

Tips for Surviving a Divorce After 50. Divorce after 50 poses different challenges than divorcing earlier in life. If you’re over 50 and you want to put yourself in the best position to have a good life after your divorce, you’ve got to understand those challenges and plan for them.  Here are 5 tips for making this difficult transition easier.

Getting the Right Divorce Resources

When you have the right tools, every job is easier. Getting your hands on the right divorce resources, as soon as you possibly can, can save you a huge amount of grief in your case.

I have compiled all of my most helpful divorce resources on a single page! You can check out my divorce book, divorce videos, divorce FAQs, and divorce program. All of these resources are priced at considerably less than what you would pay to work with me one on one. (Of course, if you would like to work with me personally as a divorce coach or consultant, you can do that too!)

Being Prepared for Your Divorce Matters

Divorce is a journey. When you’re going on a journey, having a map of the road ahead makes an enormous difference. If you don’t know where you’re going, you never know where you’re going to end up. The same is true for divorce.

The more you understand the divorce system, and the more you prepare yourself for the journey ahead, the more likely it will be that you will end up in a decent place once your divorce is behind you.

In divorce, knowledge is power. Preparation is the way to get the knowledge that you need.


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